Hi---
How did you cope with this?
Did she say what it is she was afraid of?
It sounds like the phone call was the push part of the push-pull behavior... .she feared closeness and pushed you away, then pulled you back.
Shatra
She didn't expound much about why the time we talked on the phone. She was just adamant we shouldn't be together. I did nothing to address it because, like I said, the next time I saw her she was right back to wanting to marry me. I don't even remember talking about it.
The time I wrote her the long letter, I basically told her to let me love her because I wouldn't do her like everyone else in her life had done. She was abandoned by her mother, and then father, as a child. Most of her family didn't want her and the ones that did were too old. She grew up in foster care. Was in and out of group homes and foster homes. A few family members tried to take her in when she was a teen but it never worked. Her great grandfather finally tried to take her in but she had him, one of the most gentle men I have ever met, so mad she said he cried and raised his fist like he wanted to hit her. She said it broke her heart (that she had hurt him so bad) that she ran away so she wouldn't disappoint him any longer. Anyways, the letter was just asking her to let me love her. She read it, cried for a while, and then said she was sorry. We got married six months later.