I've not been here for a couple of years. Meanwhile happened in a nutshell: One morning I decided to leave my partner. I went to my brother's place in countryside. After two days my partner called me asking 'when are you coming home' and I said I'm not coming home any more, unless he agrees to come to therapy with me, I give a chance. He did come. A few times. Then we had an opportunity to move to my brother's house, as he wanted to move out. This was great opportunity, because we could not afford our city flat any more. We started a little bed and breakfast, which became successful. I got a grant for a year and we somehow got along. Then we started another business: a café. He took financial risk (loan) and I'm doing most of the work. The café is a success, people love it.
But... .this may not come as a surprise to any of you: While being entrepreneurs there are lots of stressful situations and, in our case, problems which are actually caused by him but he does not take any responsibility. For example going way over the budget because of buying things which are not
absolutely necessary... .Everything looks great, but we are in deep ___. I personally could cope with situations, but his behaviour is now absolutely... .well BPD.
For instance he has decided that one of our workers is BAD. Because I did not fire the guy immediately when there was a little incident (because he could sue us), my partner started to nag about him every day and every evening endlessly and accusing me for having sex with the guy... . , accusing him for stealing, lying, being drunk etc. (Thank God it's off season and we can't keep him working anyway).
Have a look at my comics. They are all based on true situations.
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