alienation

[rarsweet]

I think pwBPD  wanted a parent to love them unconditionally. And it didn't happen. When they get in a relationship they are looking for a substitute parent for themselves. Adult relationships are not unconditional, when we don't put up with abuse and craziness anymore and leave, I think they think since we couldn't or wouldn't love them enough we shouldn't be able to love our children. And they don't care that the children hurt because of their behaviors.

[Eco]

My ex had a very bad childhood, her real mom was a drug abuser and lost custody of her kids and my ex never met her real father. she went through foster care and eventually ended up with her grandparents. I don't think she ever made real attachments to any parent.

[scraps66]

I had never thought of it this way but it certainly fits my scenario.  I would also add that this is whey there are so many cases of BP mothers breeding children as their lifelong advocates.  This is also my case.  This is also why they develop such unhealthy attachments to their children.