Does My Wife Have BPD? Please Help

[2014]

I do not have any answers, nor solutions for you. I just wanted to offer you my love and support during this horrible times for you. I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling, meanwhile trying to stay strong for your kids.

Please do stay around this board and post as much as you need for support, the people here are truly amazing and saved me from going insane after my break up with my BPD. Also, try posting on the Leaving-board for more help.

All the best for you and your kids.

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[livednlearned]

Hi BrokenConfused,

The story about the conversation you had with your son is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. It's a lot for him to try and understand at a such a young age, and he must in a lot of pain.

It's always possible that your wife will try to work on the marriage... .

However, since you are making deals about visitation with your wife, it's very important that you get support from people on Family Law so you understand how courts work, and what you might be committing to in the event your wife files for divorce.

[momtara]

Courts like to keep kids together. If the best you think you can do is get your son by now and deal with daughter later, then that may be a smart move.  Courts do sometimes side with moms and want to keep the status quo, so having residential custody of your son now and keeping him in the same school may be a good start to getting both kids or at least not losing them. I also wonder if giving up on getting daughter now will look bad later? BUT something for more experienced members or a lawyer to answer. This is a good start though, I think.

I'm glad your son is being honest with you. That is a lot for a 6 yo to deal with and I hope mom doesn't make him feel guilty about any of it.