Hello,
I decided long ago I would not quit on her and we 3 have tasted glorious moments, hours, days of wholsome and wonderful good healthy family love and living, but at this point i am drained, exhausted and am asking here for guidance to acquire the skills to help myself cope and not enable her to perpetuate such destructive and disrespectful behavior. Thanks in advance to anyone who responds... .
I can understand this feeling of being drained and exhausted. It takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally and physically. This is something you will have to prepare for. As good as the glorious moments are, the rest is what makes up the bulk of the relationship.
I recommend you start with learning how to validate and set good boundaries and how to effectively enforce them. Check out
the lessons on the right of this page. A good place to start the learning process is with the following articles.
https://bpdfamily.com/content/setting-boundarieshttps://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-validation