Habitually Saturday nights are bad for my BPD wife and me. I suggest movies plays hiking downtown Disney etc etc. All she really likes is gamble. Do I scramble and stressout searching for and activityxshe will say no to anyway... .ir just ride it out?
My BPDw doesn't ever want to do anything. I have tried pretty much everything - but I can't get her interested. So i generally just sit with her and shoot the breeze, which then turns into her being bored, which then turns into her berating me all night.
Sometimes I wonder if I am enabling her. What if I just went and did whatever I wanted instead of sitting with her? I'd start with things around her (exercise, housework, jigsaw puzzle) so that she could join in if she wanted - but she never does. Or I could go out without her. Both are going to end in her being annoyed, but so is just sitting with her. Why do I allow her to drag me into her pit of nothingness?
For you and gambling - could you try *other* less expensive gambling? (Bingo?). Have you tried talking and setting a limit for the night? Such as agreeing to only spend $50 - however she wants (all on black vs 1c slots)?