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Author Topic: POLL: The Bridge (Fable) - Edwin H. Friedman  (Read 23864 times)

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« Reply #10 on: November 06, 2007, 06:17:18 PM »

It is ok to let go of the rope...

If they wont help save themselves and if you know (and you do) that you'll get pulled over the edge...let go...it's ok.

and just when I said - there's no help in sight - there you are (:

I've read some of your other posts - and you seem to be really on target - especially the one about the light in the tunnel - and then you get run over by the train...

Well, maybe my dBPw will help pull herself up the rope.  So I'll hold on for a little longer.  Damned if I'll let her pull me over the side of the bridge.  Won't do it!

Your fable and your soft words (above) were so timely.  Thank you.
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« Reply #11 on: November 07, 2007, 04:23:39 PM »

My former therapist gave this to me about a year ago.  After reading it for the first time (I was not involved with present bpd at the time, but getting over a narcisisstic commitmentphobe) he asked me "who is that hanging on the rope?" and I said IT'S ME!  I went on to say it could also be a thousand other people in my life that I've tried to save, but he was astounded with my "ME" answer...he said in all his years he had never had anyone recognize that.

We can be our own worst enemies and biggest roadblocks to our own success.
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« Reply #12 on: November 07, 2007, 04:24:52 PM »

Just had to clarify - it must have been longer than a year ago because I've been with bpd since April '06.
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« Reply #13 on: November 07, 2007, 04:39:02 PM »

{{sigh}}} wow...  I don't want to let go...  I guess I am not at the end of the story yet :-(  I'm still trying - He's tugging which is good

AWESOME story :-)  Thanks!
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« Reply #14 on: November 09, 2007, 11:01:23 PM »

Thank you for posting this.  A friend of mine (who happens to be a therapist) verbally told me the Bridge story about a year ago, when I was deeply entrenched in my relationship with my BP ex.  I couldn't really hear it then, but I am out of the relationship now and it is so affirming to read this as I move forward with my life. 
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No good deed goes unpunished....

« Reply #15 on: February 16, 2008, 10:58:34 PM »

Just bumping this for any of those who may need it...

“You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.” - Maya Angelo


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« Reply #16 on: February 19, 2008, 02:36:40 PM »

that's real!
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« Reply #17 on: March 18, 2009, 08:48:48 AM »

I know this thread is old, but HOLY COW!

This should be a sticky somewhere if it is not already.
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« Reply #18 on: March 22, 2009, 12:39:19 AM »

It's a great story, simple moral: Don't drag dead weight through life. It'll kill you.
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« Reply #19 on: March 30, 2009, 08:31:00 PM »

I don't want to let go, because I will miss him... OH wow! Miss what? Miss his BS, his anger, his immaturity, his lack of love, empathy, feelings?  No I will miss the good part, the part with all those sweet kind, caring, love filled smiles.. HUH? TWISTED LIFE I sit in...

I can't let go... but I should...
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