something I've been wondering alot lately is how the Dalai Lama would cope in a relationship with my bpdgf?
Would the Dalai Lama forgive my gf if he were me, or would he pack he have packed his bags at the first sight of trouble? Would he be codependent if he stayed?
I actually saw a tweet from the Dalai Lama last week that I felt helpful in my journey and when I saw this post, I thought I'd share In general I think that anger is a sign of weakness and tolerance a sign of strength - Dalai Lama
When I start to feel angry at my exbpd, I reread this message. I know that this relationship was my fault too and I owned up to that fact when he and I broke up. I knew at different points that he wasn't treating me properly but I stayed because I didn't want to give up on MY dream. So I kept sacrificing myself because that's what I thought you did when it's real love -you don't give up...
When he and I did finally split, I owned up to my role in a long email where I told him my full experience and how I kept my pain from him. I can walk away knowing that I am an adult who took responsibility. Of course, he never has and never will because he is mentally ill.
We have to remember that. I have good friends with other mental illnesses and they're experience and view on the world is not the same as ours. It's not an excuse for bad behaviour but next time you want revenge or you wish them ill, remember that "life" is kind've already doing that.