but if they're beating themselves up emotionally, what do you do- agree? Say, no you're not? I tried just about every reaction.
In my experience, there wasn't any magic pill. Finding closure, or meeting of the minds in real time, oftyen just couldn't be reached. Things could only be left in some state of chaos... edgey.
Maybe the only relief is within you and your ability to disengage and step away from it. Accept the chaos and the edgey-ness and the way thing must be and learn how not to worry about it - find emotional relief some other way - with someone else.
When HE finally wants to talk about it, there is always Randi Kreger's formula; Puvas
hift stuff where it belongs
I found this very helpful.
Emotionally satisfying? No. A sign of a healthy relationship? No, just life with a BPD partner. And if (or when) you can't find it in yourself to accept this anymore - you probably need to get out of the relationship.
Just some thoughts - although, my relationship ended, so these are like golf tips from the worst player on the course
Hi Skippy, just have a question for you. I'm sure I'm a worse golfer than you are. Question is:
1. What if she comes back to you and there's something telling you that things might just work out this time after a long time battling this, you and her..? Will you revive it?
*I wonder since you're initiator of this Site and sound really compassionate and helpful, after all this work, . . don't you want to achieve something ?
and also there profile of yours don't say much about the whole story, and how it is ending, is she living alone now?
Thanks for this Site.
and Merry Christmas !