Written by A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari wrote this article for BPDFamly.com in 2007. Mahari was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Asperger syndrome at the age of nineteen. This article discusses some of the things she learned during her years of treatment which were completed in the mid-1990s.
In the article, Mahari talks about necessary motivations for recovery. "The most promising situation comes only when a borderline has the personal desire and motivation to change. The author goes on to describe the five phases of her recovery: (1) accepting personal responsibility, (2) re-parenting, (3) emotional regulation, (4) everything grey, and (5) reclamation of authentic self. Mahari also talks about how treatment might look to a loved one, what they should expect, and some practical things to avoid.
Mahari points out that while many professionals use common treatment methods, to some degree, no two borderlines walk the exact same path to recovery. Mahari also warns that it can be a very long and complex process and that, in some cases, the relationship may been seen by the person with BPD as something necesssary to let go of as part recovery.
BPDFamily.com no longer features this article. It is an interesting read and an archived copy is located here
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