BPDFamily.com

I'm beginning to realize that the daggers they throw at your confidence are absolutely intentional. It's about control. I'm glad that I have been journaling for a long time. I'm able to go back and see where we were eight years ago and catalog the abuse. Even her youngest adult daughter has told me to save myself and move on. You might try reading some of the articles at gettin better.com . The author has a Masters in phsycology and has worked extensively with BPD folks. I'm reading and rereading them daily. This isn't your fault. She'll keep destroying people until she gets real help. I know it's hard man, I know it makes no friggen sense at all but it's how they operate and they can't control it. Be good to yourself and stay strong, it's all we can do in the aftermath.

Sparky, I might rethink the reading of any material on that website. That particular blogger was a licensed hair stylist for 30+ years, went back to school, failed out of her internship, and was sanctioned by the State of California board of Psychology last year for impersonating a therapist.

We would just ask that you not post about her here:

This is her:


Date: 3-2018(https://bpdfamily.com/book-covers/spacer.gif)Minutes: 28:25
During my extensive career as a stylist


Info on Shari Schreiber:
bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=273738 (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=273738.msg1160463#msg1160463)

Members talk about her here:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=273738

So what is going on in our relationship lately?  How are you getting along on a daily basis? What are the reoccurring fights about? Do you share affection? Do you do things together?

This is the best place to start.  Here on the "Bettering" board we like to first focus on getting peace in the family short term, getting the boat into a safe harbor, so that you can look at this 10-year old relationship and yourself and where you are all going in life... .

Hang in there... .there is nothing easy about getting you feet on steady ground 10-years in.   *)

I will abide by your request though I must say, when reading some of the post, it seems as though she has some solid insight. I think that I'm going to have to start posting in another category and begin referring to my gf as my ex. She leaves on weekends and doesn't come home, her heroin addict daughter says she's never seen her party like this and she consistently tells me she has a "crush" on another man and he seems to be interested. I believe that out of a sense of self respect and true desire to heal that I must evict her from my home and aggressively detach. I have tried so very hard to be understanding. As she bailed for her weekend party/ date binge yesterday evening she blew up at me and blamed me for the her youngest daughter severing her relationship with her. The reality is that it was a healthy choice for her to do so.
     So now I begin the final extrication process. I don't know if I should start getting moving boxes and packing her things or if that would trigger an outlandish episode. The pain is bad but my family is behind me. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I'll start posting in the proper category and stop referring to that other website. Thanks
-sparky5