So what is going on in our relationship lately? How are you getting along on a daily basis? What are the reoccurring fights about? Do you share affection? Do you do things together?
This is the best place to start. Here on the "Bettering" board we like to first focus on getting peace in the family short term, getting the boat into a safe harbor, so that you can look at this 10-year old relationship and yourself and where you are all going in life... .
Hang in there... .there is nothing easy about getting you feet on steady ground 10-years in.
I will abide by your request though I must say, when reading some of the post, it seems as though she has some solid insight. I think that I'm going to have to start posting in another category and begin referring to my gf as my ex. She leaves on weekends and doesn't come home, her heroin addict daughter says she's never seen her party like this and she consistently tells me she has a "crush" on another man and he seems to be interested. I believe that out of a sense of self respect and true desire to heal that I must evict her from my home and aggressively detach. I have tried so very hard to be understanding. As she bailed for her weekend party/ date binge yesterday evening she blew up at me and blamed me for the her youngest daughter severing her relationship with her. The reality is that it was a healthy choice for her to do so.
So now I begin the final extrication process. I don't know if I should start getting moving boxes and packing her things or if that would trigger an outlandish episode. The pain is bad but my family is behind me. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I'll start posting in the proper category and stop referring to that other website. Thanks
-sparky5
