|
Title: New here Post by: dagwood on August 30, 2013, 09:06:53 AM I'm currently living with my soon-to-be husband and his brother. Brother is a wonderful person... . I really am very fond of him. However, I do wonder at times whether or not there is a bit of dysfunction there. He has a good job, and has never been unemployed. I'm just trying to understand him a bit better as he does have some quirky behavior. Everybody in the family seems to except his behavior, but they realize it is perhaps a bit unusual. He has a great attachment to the Weather Channel... . which he watches with great relish most of the time he is at home... . almost as though he can "control" the weather by watching it. He also is outside a lot, watching the clouds and the wind directions. I am very familiar with BPD as I have done much research on it as I believe my father(deceased) suffered from it. Actually, there is some dysfunction with many others in my bf's family, like alcoholism, but there are two siblings who are well-educated and appear to be normal, well-adjusted individuals.
Title: Re: New here Post by: Phoenix.Rising on August 30, 2013, 09:50:32 AM |iiii dagwood,
*welcome* We are glad you found us! Do you believe your husband's brother has BPD? It was a bit hard for me to decipher from your post. You said you do believe your father suffered from BPD. I'm sorry about his passing. I believe my mother suffers from it, so I understand any confusion you might be feelings. There is also a lot of alcoholism in my family. There are some great resources here, and wonderful people, too! This video crystallized some things for me: Video-What is Borderline Personality Disorder? (https://bpdfamily.blogspot.com/2010/09/video-what-is-borderline-personality.html) Phoenix.Rising Title: Re: New here Post by: dagwood on August 30, 2013, 10:06:40 AM |iiii dagwood, *welcome* We are glad you found us! Do you believe your husband's brother has BPD? It was a bit hard for me to decipher from your post. You said you do believe your father suffered from BPD. I'm sorry about his passing. I believe my mother suffers from it, so I understand any confusion you might be feelings. There is also a lot of alcoholism in my family. There are some great resources here, and wonderful people, too! This video crystallized some things for me: Video-What is Borderline Personality Disorder? (https://bpdfamily.blogspot.com/2010/09/video-what-is-borderline-personality.html) Phoenix.Rising Phoenix, yes, I'm sorry... . the person I'm speaking of is my BF's, brother with whom we live ... . not being very articulate today. Thank you very much for replying and for the video. My father died 13 years ago, but some of the "sting" still lingers Title: Re: New here Post by: Phoenix.Rising on August 30, 2013, 10:14:23 AM dagwood,
I'm sure some of the sting still lingers, and thank you for the clarification on your boyfriend's brother. When a family member has BPD, the illness can negatively everyone in the family system, including children, siblings, and in-laws. Senior members on the [L5] Coping and Healing from a BPD Parent, Sibling, or Inlaw (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=7.0) board are experienced with and can help you with setting boundaries, finding relief from FOG, encouraging self-care, improving your handling of relationships impacted by your BPD relative, and pursuing a path of recovery from traumatic experiences. The validation, information, and support will give you strength on your journey. We are here to help you. :) Phoenix.Rising |