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[dagwood]

I'm currently living with my soon-to-be husband and his brother.  Brother is a wonderful person... . I really am very fond of him.  However, I do wonder at times whether or not there is a bit of dysfunction there.  He has a good job, and has never been unemployed.  I'm just trying to understand him a bit better as he does have some quirky behavior.  Everybody in the family seems to except his behavior, but they realize it is perhaps a bit unusual.  He has a great attachment to the Weather Channel... . which he watches with great relish most of the time he is at home... . almost as though he can "control" the weather by watching it.  He also is outside a lot, watching the clouds and the wind directions.  I am very familiar with BPD as I have done much research on it as I believe my father(deceased) suffered from it.  Actually, there is some dysfunction with many others in my bf's family, like alcoholism, but there are two siblings who are well-educated and appear to be normal, well-adjusted individuals.

[Phoenix.Rising]

  dagwood,

We are glad you found us!  Do you believe your husband's brother has BPD?  It was a bit hard for me to decipher from your post. 

You said you do believe your father suffered from BPD.  I'm sorry about his passing.  I believe my mother suffers from it, so I understand any confusion you might be feelings.  There is also a lot of alcoholism in my family. 

There are some great resources here, and wonderful people, too!  This video crystallized some things for me:

Video-What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Phoenix.Rising

[dagwood]

dagwood,

We are glad you found us!  Do you believe your husband's brother has BPD?  It was a bit hard for me to decipher from your post. 

You said you do believe your father suffered from BPD.  I'm sorry about his passing.  I believe my mother suffers from it, so I understand any confusion you might be feelings.  There is also a lot of alcoholism in my family. 

There are some great resources here, and wonderful people, too!  This video crystallized some things for me:

Video-What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Phoenix.Rising

Phoenix, yes, I'm sorry... . the person I'm speaking of is my BF's, brother with whom we live ... . not being very articulate today.

Thank you very much for replying and for the video.  My father died 13 years ago, but some of the "sting" still lingers

[Phoenix.Rising]

dagwood,

I'm sure some of the sting still lingers, and thank you for the clarification on your boyfriend's brother. 

When a family member has BPD, the illness can negatively everyone in the family system, including children, siblings, and in-laws. Senior members on the [L5]  Coping and Healing from a BPD Parent, Sibling, or Inlaw board are experienced with and can help you with setting boundaries, finding relief from FOG, encouraging self-care, improving your handling of relationships impacted by your BPD relative, and pursuing a path of recovery from traumatic experiences. The validation, information, and support will give you strength on your journey.

We are here to help you.   

Phoenix.Rising