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My buddy's dad is still FB friends with my x. He saw the photos of mess she posted after the burglary (I saw her doing it and was going to tell her not to, but she did it quickly... . gotta love those priorities!). That wasn't the weird thing. She titled it, "this is what happened to my kid's home." My buddy was going off on some hdden meaning. I could say she's mentally detached, but may it was just her being triggered by evil people entering the home where her kids live. If I were to do it, I would have said something like "this is what we found when we got home." Or similar. I don't know, maybe this post is a waste of bandwidth... .

Turkish... Hi buddy. Hope things are calming down for you.

I listen to people very closely when they speak and read carefully when they write. I look for things like what tense statements are made in. It gives me insight into what the context is. Writing, because of lack of emotion, can be taken out of context easily. I see this all the time.

Knowing the person helps too. I will speculate on her caption. Kick me in the balls if you want.

She is further devaluing as a parent. Like you allowed the home to be unsecured and it's your fault.

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That is interesting.  maybe.  after all,  it's the " man's job"  to do that... .   as I  heard in regard to just about everything else. I  never figured out what her job was... .   perhaps to support me  in keeping everything together? * snort*

Turk,

I got that all the time, as well.  Then the second you become that "man", she emasculates you.

G

Drove me nuts. Old World gender roles mixed with American Liberal Feminism (she's an immigrant). Whatever I did often turned out wrong. She did says he appreciate stuff I did often enough that I just ended up confused. Never could figure out what her role was. Shell never have to find that out since she made herself sterile. And damn me if this might not be my one "mature" r/s too since I'm middle aged and have no desire for more kids.

Turkish... I'm with you on that relationship comment. I have a plan. I'm inoculating my self from the poison sting of the borderline. Now I'm hunting them and using them for sport. As long as I am aware and don't get attached I'm safe. Three condoms.

It's:

1) A jab at you

2) A reach out for pity

3) An attempt to vilify you to others

LMAO

Or, she may simply want the attention/sympathy from everyone.  After all, she IS a victim in life, right?  Now, even her kid's house has been victimized. 

My borderline craved attention.  Perhaps yours does too, Turkish.

Fiddle

Turkish,

It comes across as a swipe at you hidden between the words. Almost as if she is saying "look at what you allowed to happen to my kids home" but subtly and craftily worded so the jagged edges are sharp and dull; hidden behind the veil of ambiguity that reflects the contradictory nature of a pwBPD. My exUBPDgf in round 2 devaluation, while on my birthday, in those last few horrific days I spent in her house, took pictures of the restaurant I took her and her 2 sons too. As a final slap in my face, she would later post those pics, on her social media, minus me(remember it was my birthday) and title the pics, which included her sons, "Look at my son eating food at a place I took him to," No mention at all of me. No mention at all that I took them to that place. And that I paid for all of that. On my birthday. I don't know if you can see the similarity to your situation, but it is what I thought of when I read your post. I wanted to throw my iphone against a wall that day I saw those pics and what she wrote and how I was missing from the pics.

Oh yes, she does! The public validation. Strange for a girl with social anxiety and the like. I think if it were a jab, she would have written more. Perhaps her boy toy, the tough guy, was all "id protect you baby! I heard something second hand from someone in the local bouncer community about this fake tough guy they worked with once. May have been his name, since its an uncommon one.

As for Perfidy's comment... . she DID jab me in front of the cop. He found my "batman utility belt" in the closet and asked if I worked security. I told him I had it for the training classes I had taken. He replied, "oh yeah, you told me that earlier, I forgot." He asked her if she had access to the fitearms. She said no. I said i would have if she had taken training. My X said something like " I'm a better shot than him anyway." Whatever. I let it go. In my last class I put 3" grouped, accurate double taps as I was moving through a field of targets. I also practice single weak hand too (my groups are tight, but my targetting is off... . would work on that but no $$ now). Oh, no, its not like I was trained by the protege of the guy who invented Defensive Handgun Use technique or anything, the foundation for training used around the world for civilians, law enfrcement and military. No, except fr the one incident where she ealked by and smacked me, and the few throwing/breaking things ijncidents, she generally isn't violent. I locked them up to preclude possible accidents.

She doesn't have a clue... . anything to jab me. In retrospect, she'd often make joking/devaluing comments like that, like we were an old married couple. I thought it was normal. Now I haven't a clue what normal is!  

That's horrible, Ironman, you couldn't write a better villain for a story. A villain with BPD powers... . world beware!

What is truly scary, is she is a real person. Out there. Possibly hurting some other guy, like me.