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Title: Am I normal to feel like this ? Post by: Paul M on February 24, 2014, 09:39:15 AM I had a 2 month whirlwind romance with my ex who I believe to be BPD or cp or maybe a bit if both.
One day she loves me it's all good the next I'm dumped with no reason other than- I can't make you happy? There's to much pressure! I don't want to be your everything? I initiated no contact and got angry. I told her to never speak to me again ! Two weeks later I have had no correspondence from her. No remorse. It's like she forgot me so easily . I'm normally very strong character and I'm baffled how this short romance can affect me so much. I can't sleep properly I keep dreaming of her and don't stop thinking about her 24/7. I'm a mess. Do I need professional help? I have no closure and never will . I'm mad at myself for being so weak. What do I do ? Title: Re: Am I normal to feel like this ? Post by: 24/7/30 on February 24, 2014, 09:44:50 AM Be very easy on yourself. Being with a BPD is very spellbinding and damaging... . and it is not something you can walk away from and be done. Read these posts... . alot... . and remember that the person you met has a mental illness that is very hard to treat. Be grateful that you were only in this relationship for 2 months.
And yes, it is VERY normal to feel like you do. Title: Re: Am I normal to feel like this ? Post by: LettingGo14 on February 24, 2014, 09:56:50 AM Two weeks later I have had no correspondence from her. No remorse. It's like she forgot me so easily . I'm normally very strong character and I'm baffled how this short romance can affect me so much. I can't sleep properly I keep dreaming of her and don't stop thinking about her 24/7. I'm a mess. Do I need professional help? I have no closure and never will . I'm mad at myself for being so weak. What do I do ? Paul -- I found this site a week ago after feeling the same way you did. You are not alone. This is, by far, the best resource I have found for dealing with what we face, especially since we are all in the same boat. All I can say is that we will have closure -- not from BPDx -- but from ourselves. We can be mad or sad -- but, ultimately, we will find strength in ourselves, not from BPDx. Keep reading the stuff here, especially the articles, particularly the one on detachment. I blamed myself when my BPDxgf abandoned me. I internalized her shame/blame. I raged. I wallowed. I tried to win her back. Nothing worked, until I realized that I was NOT going to FIX her. You're in the right place. Keep reading & posting. Title: Re: Am I normal to feel like this ? Post by: seeking balance on February 24, 2014, 10:00:41 AM I can't sleep properly I keep dreaming of her and don't stop thinking about her 24/7. I'm a mess. Do I need professional help? I have no closure and never will . I'm mad at myself for being so weak. What do I do ? *welcome* Paul, I am sorry you are struggling so much - and what you feel is common when a very intense relationship ends suddenly with no real explanation for you to truly find your own closure. Professional help is not a bad thing - many of us here have done this. Try to be gentle to yourself rather than mad - you are human and hurt, this deserves kindness. Are you exercising, eating healthy and staying away from alcohol/drugs? If so, it won't hurt you to see a professional who might be able to give you something temporarily to relax/sleep. Rest is very important to healing. Peace, SB Title: Re: Am I normal to feel like this ? Post by: RecycledNoMore on February 25, 2014, 04:05:23 AM Gosh Paul, I think we have all felt that way at one point or another, is ok mate, we have been there too, If you feel like you cant cope seeing a T isint a bad idea,they are very good at helping you find your way and theres absolutely no shame in needing help.My T helps me put things in perspective and I always leave feeling hopeful and relieved.
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