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Title: push pull extreme Post by: imsodizzy on March 01, 2014, 08:43:11 AM Hey had a question my dpdwife when she goes through the cycle she moves out every dang time time and then when its time to move back she wants a new place so that means i have to move again this is the third time in alittle over a year im tired of it she moved out again right across the hall wich i dont get at all you can move anywhere you want and you choose across the hall i dont get this push pull is it this extreme for anyone else
Title: Re: push pull extreme Post by: Want2know on March 02, 2014, 07:54:26 AM Hi
Since this is a pattern, if it's something you don't want anymore, moving to a new place each time she wants to come back, you should probably start thinking about doing something differently. How does she respond when you suggest not moving? Title: Re: push pull extreme Post by: Mono No Aware on March 02, 2014, 10:30:12 AM Hey had a question my dpdwife when she goes through the cycle she moves out every dang time time and then when its time to move back she wants a new place so that means i have to move again this is the third time in alittle over a year im tired of it she moved out again right across the hall wich i dont get at all you can move anywhere you want and you choose across the hall i dont get this push pull is it this extreme for anyone else Oh yeah, we get (as in receive) push-pull behavior, though none of us get (as in understand) What the heck is going on in their heads. It's a little different for everybody, for example mine threatens to leave all the time and sometimes drives around the block but hasn't moved out, while others here are dealing with their BPD mate actually disappearing. Without knowing any details, I'm going to hazard a guess that perhaps you are enabling this behavior and need to read The Lessons... . and start thinking about Boundaries. https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56206.0 |