Hey had a question
my dpdwife when she goes through the cycle she moves out every dang time time
and then when its time to move back she wants a new place so that means i have to move again
this is the third time in alittle over a year
im tired of it she moved out again
right across the hall wich i dont get at all you can move anywhere you want and you choose across the hall
i dont get this push pull is it this extreme for anyone else
Oh yeah, we get (as in receive) push-pull behavior, though none of us get (as in understand) What the heck is going on in their heads. It's a little different for everybody, for example mine threatens to leave all the time and sometimes drives around the block but hasn't moved out, while others here are dealing with their BPD mate actually disappearing.
Without knowing any details, I'm going to hazard a guess that perhaps you are enabling this behavior and need to read The Lessons... . and start thinking about Boundaries.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56206.0
