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Title: I just figured out that my husband of three years probably suffers from BPD Post by: Yosefshaya on February 02, 2015, 05:17:15 AM He won't go to therapy with me. We have two beautiful sons. I am at a real crossroads. He is absolutely unwilling to make amends. Uses the kids to hurt me. I am extremely frightened of divorce but believe I may have no choice. To those of you who divorced, what point did you put in the towel? For those of you not divorcing, why not and how do you cope?
Thank you Title: Re: I just figured out that my husband of three years probably suffers from BPD Post by: waverider on February 02, 2015, 06:31:43 AM *welcome*
Whatever the future holds it will be long and hard to get to a good place. You cant make him do anything. You can only control what you do. Hopefully creating an environment where he can decide if he wants to join you or not. Therapy will not work unless he wants to go, and couples therapy rarely works as it turns into a blame and denial session Have you read through the lessons over to the right?>> Before you start worrying about what the end options are, there are a lot of steps you can take to protect yourself now. Is there any particular aspect that is worrying you the most? Title: Re: I just figured out that my husband of three years probably suffers from BPD Post by: formflier on February 02, 2015, 12:16:39 PM He won't go to therapy with me. You should still go... .you need to get a support system for you... .and get yourself educated about the options you have. Then you can make choices... .choices give you back the power... . This will be a lot of work... but I think you can do it! |iiii |