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Title: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: gomez_addams on June 02, 2015, 04:27:45 PM So how do I handle the stbx uBPDw's birthday next week?
I was pretty much planning to ignore it, but that would be an enormous trigger. I thought about some flowers, but that shows inconsistency. I am past the point of trying to be reasonable. I only want to do what is efficient. I don't mind grabbing some flowers (heh... .Out the joint account, naturally). Would this be horrible in light of me trying to press the D-Train forward? Seeing my L on Thursday to pay the retainer and get the ball rolling. Seeing my T tmw to get a mental/emotional boost. Thoughts? Gomez Title: Re: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: Mike-X on June 02, 2015, 04:38:45 PM Can you elaborate a little on your situation: are you still living together? kids? current contact? does she know you are seeing a lawyer? does she want the divorce?
So how do I handle the stbx uBPDw's birthday next week? I was pretty much planning to ignore it, but that would be an enormous trigger. I thought about some flowers, but that shows inconsistency. I am past the point of trying to be reasonable. I only want to do what is efficient. I don't mind grabbing some flowers (heh... .Out the joint account, naturally). Would this be horrible in light of me trying to press the D-Train forward? Seeing my L on Thursday to pay the retainer and get the ball rolling. Seeing my T tmw to get a mental/emotional boost. Thoughts? Gomez Title: Re: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: GaGrl on June 02, 2015, 06:34:41 PM What about something rather innocuous, like a non-sentimental card with a gift card inside? Definitely no flowers, no dinner out, no celebration.
Title: Re: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: gomez_addams on June 02, 2015, 07:03:27 PM No kids. She knows I want a divorce. She claims to be packing her stuff to head to her home state. I'm in a rented room temporarily.
Non-descript card seems doable. I agree -- no flowers, dinner, etc... . I'll ask my T tomorrow as well. Gomez Title: Re: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: Panda39 on June 02, 2015, 09:08:05 PM Why do you feel obligated to get her anything?
Title: Re: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: gomez_addams on June 02, 2015, 09:26:06 PM Why do you feel obligated to get her anything? F.O.G. I embody it. Gomez Title: Re: Stbx uBPDw b-day next week Post by: Panda39 on June 02, 2015, 09:32:12 PM Why do you feel obligated to get her anything? F.O.G. I embody it. Gomez :) lol Yep, there you go |iiii |