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Title: I feel like our relationship is dying and there's nothing I can do Post by: Stoffel on September 07, 2015, 01:04:12 AM I'm having a hard time coping with my feelings. I'm all alone and my bf is asleep in the other room and I keep wanting to wake him up because I can't stand the pain, but then I think it's not going help anyway. It's not going to fix anything. I'm in so much pain, I don't know what to do. I don't want to wake him up and fight... .I am glad that I didn't 'lose it' tonight though, because lately I've been losing it a lot due to feeling in so much pain and feeling pushed to the limit of what I can cope with, which I accomplished through prayer. I feel empty now, though and alone. I don't know what to do to cope with it so I don't end up making things worse.
Title: Re: I feel like our relationship is dying and there's nothing I can do Post by: MaroonLiquid on September 07, 2015, 01:26:59 AM I'm having a hard time coping with my feelings. I'm all alone and my bf is asleep in the other room and I keep wanting to wake him up because I can't stand the pain, but then I think it's not going help anyway. It's not going to fix anything. I'm in so much pain, I don't know what to do. I don't want to wake him up and fight... .I am glad that I didn't 'lose it' tonight though, because lately I've been losing it a lot due to feeling in so much pain and feeling pushed to the limit of what I can cope with, which I accomplished through prayer. I feel empty now, though and alone. I don't know what to do to cope with it so I don't end up making things worse. It sounds like you are having a difficult night. I'm so sorry. I hope things get better for you. Can you share what's been going on? It will help us give you better advice! Title: Re: I feel like our relationship is dying and there's nothing I can do Post by: 123Phoebe on September 07, 2015, 08:24:41 AM Hi Stoffel, I want to join MaroonLiquid in welcoming you to bpdfamily
I don't know what to do to cope with it so I don't end up making things worse. It sounds like you're on the right track already |iiii Reaching out here for support instead of waking up your boyfriend was a really positive approach to your own self care. Little things mean a lot. Did something happen last night? When you're ready to share more, we're here Title: Re: I feel like our relationship is dying and there's nothing I can do Post by: Stoffel on September 07, 2015, 02:12:27 PM Thank you MaroonLiquid and 123Phoebe. I'm sorry, I think I made a mistake. I was up in the middle of the night and in a lot of pain and desperate and the invitation to reach out to the group was so comforting that I just signed up without reading all the rules.
I have been diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder with borderline features and my boyfriend I believe has both BPD and NPD traits and we are trying to have a relationship. So it looks like people with PD's aren't supposed to be on this board. I identified because I believe my partner also has a personality disorder and I'm trying to help him, despite the fact that I have this 'disability' myself so you can imagine how crazy things get sometimes. So maybe I need to be on a BPD forum for support rather than here although I am trying to support someone with BPD traits. Sorry for violating your code. I was so desperate last night and in more pain than I could cope with by myself and I didn't have anyone I could call at that hour. Do you guys have a section for people who are trying to recover from BPD? Thanks for reaching out to me and I also want to say how great I think it is to see people who are willing to learn how to help their BPD loved ones. My family won't help and just makes things worse so I just think the people who have people in their lives like you who are willing to go that extra mile to help are very lucky. |