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Title: Reaching out when hopeless or bored (2) Post by: Polis_Ohio on October 13, 2015, 07:21:04 AM Yes you are right. She is inviting me out for drinks now, I couldn't last night but she wants to see me still. I need to tread carefully and guard my feelings.
She was talking about why it's hard to deal with her breakup and this guy said he "might come back" but she is now saying that she is too emotionally dependent on other people and needs to work on that. She's all over the place, she knows how I feel. I have started to talk about me more and she is listening, which I am surprised by. I guess if she is free tonight or tomorrow we will grab a drink and see how stable she is. I'm going to need to control our interactions better. Title: Reaching out when hopeless or bored (2) Post by: enlighten me on October 13, 2015, 07:43:02 AM Head not heart.
Easier said than done I know. Title: Reaching out when hopeless or bored (2) Post by: Polis_Ohio on October 13, 2015, 11:09:53 AM Yup, I need to leave my heart at home. She is actually hanging out with her best friend she ostracized. I only know because he told me when I asked what he was up to today. I'm sort of nervous about it, I asked him not to divulge anything I said about her but he likes to talk.
For some reason she felt the need to lie to me that she was working until 5, which she isn't; I don't see why she is lying about that weird thing to stretch the truth about. I don't know what's going to happen if we meet but I hope she's cordial at least. Title: Re: Reaching out when hopeless or bored (2) Post by: Skip on November 25, 2015, 08:39:53 AM I have started to talk about me more and she is listening, which I am surprised by. I guess if she is free tonight or tomorrow we will grab a drink and see how stable she is. I'm going to need to control our interactions better. As hard as it my be, it might help to show a clean slate (don't say it, show it). What do I mean? Accept where the relationship is (6 month broken up), put resolving it with her (and getting her to explain things) away for now - it all will feel clingy/desperate to her and that you are a bit of a downer. Remember, her side of these events are very different than yours. Just focus on having fun. Show her a taste of the guy she initially likes - and then go home. Don't make it complicated, don't try to ascertain where she is, don't try to plan where it's going, don't set up a next time. Just give her something to think about. And then wait - see what she does next. As for your emotions and working through your future, share that with your support confidant and us. We'll help you work through all the woundedness and make try to fond yourself in this turbulent sea. Title: Re: Reaching out when hopeless or bored (2) Post by: livednlearned on December 03, 2015, 07:53:53 PM How are things going Polis_Ohio?
Did the two of you meet for drinks? Things go ok? |