I have started to talk about me more and she is listening, which I am surprised by. I guess if she is free tonight or tomorrow we will grab a drink and see how stable she is. I'm going to need to control our interactions better.
As hard as it my be, it might help to show a clean slate (don't say it, show it).
What do I mean? Accept where the relationship is (6 month broken up), put resolving it with her (and getting her to explain things) away for now - it all will feel clingy/desperate to her and that you are a bit of a downer. Remember, her side of these events are very different than yours.
Just focus on having fun. Show her a taste of the guy she initially likes - and then go home. Don't make it complicated, don't try to ascertain where she is, don't try to plan where it's going, don't set up a next time. Just give her something to think about. And then wait - see what she does next.
As for your emotions and working through your future, share that with your support confidant and us. We'll help you work through all the woundedness and make try to fond yourself in this turbulent sea.