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One year ago today, I walked away from my UxBPDbf.  The day before he raged and told me to stay out of his life.  I thought to myself "yea, until there's another crisis."  Sure enough, the very next morning he was begging me to pick him up.  And I thought "no, no more, I don't want to be that woman."  So I ended all contact. 

He became threatening, stalking, harassing.  He has contacted me approx 700 times since then.  I have not responded.  Gavin de Becker refers to stalking as a prolonged date rape.  I think he is right.  This has been the most difficult year of my life.  For me and my entire family. 

And yet, here I am, at day #365!  I don't know if it is over or when he will finally leave me alone.  But I am out of the FOG.  It has been so hard.  But I have done it.  I am so proud. 



Thank you all, bpdfamily.   You have been a Godsend. 

XOXO

You did good! High five!

Thank you, Mutt!  That feels SO good to hear.  You've been a big help along the way.  WOO-HOO!

Congratulations!  You are strong and deserve the best. Don't ever forget that.

Thank you, willtimeheal.  I very much appreciate you celebrating this feat with me.  bpdfamily is the place that gets the struggle and the celebration.  Thank you so much! 

I had sort of forgotten to celebrate my success and now I am with y'all.  Thank  you all for letting this be a special day.  I just poured myself a glass of Proseco.  Thank you!  :) :)

It's my pleasure Reclaimingmylife. Cheers!

Good for you! Pat yourself on the back, you didn't play the game. It's the ONLY way to make it thru!

Thank you, AVR!  You are right.  I didn't play and boy did he try every trick in the book to get me back in the game. Lord, at times, it was so hard not to play.   But I knew that going back would RUIN my r/s with my kids and family. So I stayed the course. Whew.  Thank you.  Y'all's enthusiasm means so much!

woww what a coincidence ! one year ago today i walked away from my exBPDgf. i was at her apartment in montreal when she raged at me calling me words that i can't mention on this forum, her rage was for no apparent reasons. i was just watching TV when she unleashed her verbal attacks at me, i still don't know what was the triggers for her rage but anyway i left her place and i told her that: "you will never see my face again i promise you". by the time i drove back to my place in ottawa about two hours away i received a text message from her saying how much she loves me but i didn't respond. now it has been a year and i have maintained strict NC, she has tried every tactic in the book with endless text messages, phone calls to get me to respond but i didn't. about three weeks ago she sent me a text message telling me that she lost her mom and she only remembers the good time we had together and she hopes that i am happy in life... .if i feel that there was only 1% a chance that  going back to her was gonna work i would have tried everything in my power to see her again but i am pretty sure i have made the right decision and  today i am really happy that i am out of a destructive and diabolical relationship with my ex.

Congratulations :)

It is a wonderful feeling to know that you have got your life back isn't it ?

To know that you are the one that ended that toxic cycle of abuse, and negativity.

I am also coincidentally one year out too and the feeling is wonderful. I do get stalked, she tries everything she can to get me to break NC, even to the extent of being investigated for fraud.

one year on - I love the calmness and tranquillity of my life again, no chaos, no rages just peace and quiet.

Enjoy your life :)

My ex gf walked out last weekend. I am not sure if she is just emotionally insecure or if she has BPD.  But everything tells me BPD from what I've read here and elsewhere this past weekend. But I haven't been able to do nc yet. I need to. Say i will. But then break down and send texts . She responds but then i get too deep and she shuts it down. Says friend is all she needs. I keep wondering after reading things here if I can do nc if she will be the one to reach out. Pray for me to go nc and to keep it up. Why is it so difficult to do?

happy for you! we just need to be strong to battle this... .NC is the way to go. i can't imagine the hell i would be living now if i hadn't kept strict NC.