365th Day NC - I Made It

[ReclaimingMyLife]

One year ago today, I walked away from my UxBPDbf.  The day before he raged and told me to stay out of his life.  I thought to myself "yea, until there's another crisis."  Sure enough, the very next morning he was begging me to pick him up.  And I thought "no, no more, I don't want to be that woman."  So I ended all contact. 

He became threatening, stalking, harassing.  He has contacted me approx 700 times since then.  I have not responded.  Gavin de Becker refers to stalking as a prolonged date rape.  I think he is right.  This has been the most difficult year of my life.  For me and my entire family. 

And yet, here I am, at day #365!  I don't know if it is over or when he will finally leave me alone.  But I am out of the FOG.  It has been so hard.  But I have done it.  I am so proud. 



Thank you all, bpdfamily.   You have been a Godsend. 

XOXO

[Mutt]

You did good! High five!

[ReclaimingMyLife]

You did good! High five!

Thank you, Mutt!  That feels SO good to hear.  You've been a big help along the way.  WOO-HOO!

[willtimeheal]

Congratulations!  You are strong and deserve the best. Don't ever forget that.

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Congratulations!  You are strong and deserve the best. Don't ever forget that.

Thank you, willtimeheal.  I very much appreciate you celebrating this feat with me.  bpdfamily is the place that gets the struggle and the celebration.  Thank you so much! 

[ReclaimingMyLife]

I had sort of forgotten to celebrate my success and now I am with y'all.  Thank  you all for letting this be a special day.  I just poured myself a glass of Proseco.  Thank you! 

[Mutt]

It's my pleasure Reclaimingmylife. Cheers!

[AVR1962]

Good for you! Pat yourself on the back, you didn't play the game. It's the ONLY way to make it thru!

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Good for you! Pat yourself on the back, you didn't play the game. It's the ONLY way to make it thru!

Thank you, AVR!  You are right.  I didn't play and boy did he try every trick in the book to get me back in the game. Lord, at times, it was so hard not to play.   But I knew that going back would RUIN my r/s with my kids and family. So I stayed the course. Whew.  Thank you.  Y'all's enthusiasm means so much!

[zeus123]

woww what a coincidence ! one year ago today i walked away from my exBPDgf. i was at her apartment in montreal when she raged at me calling me words that i can't mention on this forum, her rage was for no apparent reasons. i was just watching TV when she unleashed her verbal attacks at me, i still don't know what was the triggers for her rage but anyway i left her place and i told her that: "you will never see my face again i promise you". by the time i drove back to my place in ottawa about two hours away i received a text message from her saying how much she loves me but i didn't respond. now it has been a year and i have maintained strict NC, she has tried every tactic in the book with endless text messages, phone calls to get me to respond but i didn't. about three weeks ago she sent me a text message telling me that she lost her mom and she only remembers the good time we had together and she hopes that i am happy in life... .if i feel that there was only 1% a chance that  going back to her was gonna work i would have tried everything in my power to see her again but i am pretty sure i have made the right decision and  today i am really happy that i am out of a destructive and diabolical relationship with my ex.

[greenmonkey]

Congratulations

It is a wonderful feeling to know that you have got your life back isn't it ?

To know that you are the one that ended that toxic cycle of abuse, and negativity.

I am also coincidentally one year out too and the feeling is wonderful. I do get stalked, she tries everything she can to get me to break NC, even to the extent of being investigated for fraud.

one year on - I love the calmness and tranquillity of my life again, no chaos, no rages just peace and quiet.

Enjoy your life

[Scopikaz]

My ex gf walked out last weekend. I am not sure if she is just emotionally insecure or if she has BPD.  But everything tells me BPD from what I've read here and elsewhere this past weekend. But I haven't been able to do nc yet. I need to. Say i will. But then break down and send texts . She responds but then i get too deep and she shuts it down. Says friend is all she needs. I keep wondering after reading things here if I can do nc if she will be the one to reach out. Pray for me to go nc and to keep it up. Why is it so difficult to do?

[NoNoNo]

One year ago today, I walked away from my UxBPDbf.  ... .So I ended all contact. 

... .But I am out of the FOG. .

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happy for you! we just need to be strong to battle this... .NC is the way to go. i can't imagine the hell i would be living now if i hadn't kept strict NC.