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Title: Suicide claims Post by: Nela24 on February 27, 2016, 02:51:24 AM Hello. My partner keeps telling me that she'll "stop bothering" me soon because she'll be dead. She says she'll kill herself. She'll have moments where she explains that she knows how to stop these thoughts but it's so hard. She'll conclude that she knows she shouldn't/doesn't want to die but later it just comes back again. This is a consistent pattern. I've begun to feel desensitized to her taking her life threat because she's said it so many times and there's so much drama when she says it. I still take her seriously and check in with her while I'm gone and remind her I love her etc etc. I don't know what to do anymore. She's been abusive to me and I'm exhausted I think I want to break up. I don't want her harming herself.
Title: Re: Suicide claims Post by: Suzn on February 27, 2016, 11:34:37 AM Hello Nela24 *welcome*
I'm sorry you are struggling with your partner right now. Threats of suicide are scary and although we want to take them seriously we can become somewhat desensitized to them as you say you're feeling. Having a phone number to a suicide hotline handy can help your partner reach out to a real person to help sooth her upset. They are there 24/7 and it's confidential. Here are more ways to help when this happens. I would suggest reading the entire thread. TOOLS: Dealing with threats of Suicide and Suicide Attempts (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=79032.0) Do I understand this correctly that you live together? In what ways has she been abusive to you? Title: Re: Suicide claims Post by: C.Stein on March 01, 2016, 11:07:27 AM Hello. My partner keeps telling me that she'll "stop bothering" me soon because she'll be dead. She says she'll kill herself. She'll have moments where she explains that she knows how to stop these thoughts but it's so hard. She'll conclude that she knows she shouldn't/doesn't want to die but later it just comes back again. This is a consistent pattern. I've begun to feel desensitized to her taking her life threat because she's said it so many times and there's so much drama when she says it. I still take her seriously and check in with her while I'm gone and remind her I love her etc etc. I don't know what to do anymore. She's been abusive to me and I'm exhausted I think I want to break up. I don't want her harming herself. I was in much the same place with my ex. Suicide threats, talk of not wanting to live, etc ... .not knowing if she was a risk or not. I also became desensitized to it because I came to believe that while she might be feeling like to some extent she was using that threat to emotionally manipulate me and/or cast herself as the victim in order to divert attention away from something she had done to hurt me. It really is a fine line that is very difficult to distinguish from an outsiders perspective. I don't know the details of your situation but if you can determine which is the case ... .serious or not, then you might be clearer on how to proceed? |