Hello. My partner keeps telling me that she'll "stop bothering" me soon because she'll be dead. She says she'll kill herself. She'll have moments where she explains that she knows how to stop these thoughts but it's so hard. She'll conclude that she knows she shouldn't/doesn't want to die but later it just comes back again. This is a consistent pattern. I've begun to feel desensitized to her taking her life threat because she's said it so many times and there's so much drama when she says it. I still take her seriously and check in with her while I'm gone and remind her I love her etc etc. I don't know what to do anymore. She's been abusive to me and I'm exhausted I think I want to break up. I don't want her harming herself.
I was in much the same place with my ex. Suicide threats, talk of not wanting to live, etc ... .not knowing if she was a risk or not. I also became desensitized to it because I came to believe that while she might be feeling like to some extent she was using that threat to emotionally manipulate me and/or cast herself as the victim in order to divert attention away from something she had done to hurt me. It really is a fine line that is very difficult to distinguish from an outsiders perspective.
I don't know the details of your situation but if you can determine which is the case ... .serious or not, then you might be clearer on how to proceed?
