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Title: I saw my ex this weekend Post by: joeramabeme on October 17, 2016, 08:34:04 PM She and I are members of a meditation group. I used to attend regularly and have been just a few times in the last year. I went Sunday realizing I may see her walk through the hall.
Arrived early, went to the bathroom and when I walked out the door she was standing right in front of me smiling. I looked right at her as if she were a good friend and smiled and said Good Morning ex. She said good morning and then suddenly took a whole step back when she knew who it was. At the break, I saw her one more time for just a moment and again smiled and nodded to her. She had a mixed look of anger and sadness and deep hurt. I am really amazed at myself. It has been over 24 hours and I am not freaking out, having any reactions or really anything. I told my T and she went right to the point, did you go there to see her? Though I did not consciously do this - after hearing the question I had to concede that there was probably a degree of this thinking in my actions. So, I don't know if this means I am all better and good to go now but I do know that I feel far better than 4 months ago when I unexpectedly saw her in the grocery store and had a fight or flight moment so snuck away without making a purchase. Title: Re: I saw my ex this weekend Post by: Sadly on October 18, 2016, 10:05:12 AM I would say well done Joe, regardless of it was intended or not it happened and you did so well, 24 hours later, no Wobblies, it's looking good. x
Title: Re: I saw my ex this weekend Post by: heartandwhole on October 18, 2016, 10:41:51 AM Yes! That sounds like progress to me, JRB. Good going. |iiii
heartandwhole Title: Re: I saw my ex this weekend Post by: Mutt on October 18, 2016, 11:38:01 AM Hi Joe,
I started with a new T and was providing some relationship history and the T said; "sounds like she doesn't have what you need". I told my T and she went right to the point, did you go there to see her? Though I did not consciously do this - after hearing the question I had to concede that there was probably a degree of this thinking in my actions. What's your impression about your new T? Do you like her, don't like her, too early to tell? Title: Re: I saw my ex this weekend Post by: joeramabeme on October 18, 2016, 07:14:13 PM What's your impression about your new T? Do you like her, don't like her, too early to tell? Second session, I like her. Perhaps a bit too early to say too much but she seems to understand the dynamics and has insightful responses that get right to the point. I told her that I wasn't sure how my ex felt about seeing me; her response, is that important to you? A little bit of an ouch and a LOL! I could have responded and said; why yes it is, if I am to remain codependent! :) Thanks all |