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Title: New therapist suggestions- relevant ?
Post by: NotAHero on April 27, 2022, 06:21:50 PM
  My new T suggested :
1- Mindfulness
2-Acceptance and commitment therapy

For books she suggested

1- Happiness Trap

2- ACT with love

 My main complain to her was that I am having trouble moving on and dating.

 Any thoughts ? Does the plan/ books seem relevant ?


Title: Re: New therapist suggestions- relevant ?
Post by: Woolspinner2000 on April 28, 2022, 08:38:34 PM
Hi NotAHero,  :hi:

I'm not familiar with the books your T mentioned, but Mindfulness and Acceptance are both great topics. Mindfulness, staying in the present, has helped me a lot as I heal. It's not easy, but as you practice these things you'll gain the ability to be mindful for longer periods of time.

What do you think of the suggestions your T made? Is there one you like or can grasp better than another?

Wools


Title: Re: New therapist suggestions- relevant ?
Post by: NotAHero on April 28, 2022, 10:37:48 PM
Hi NotAHero,  :hi:

I'm not familiar with the books your T mentioned, but Mindfulness and Acceptance are both great topics. Mindfulness, staying in the present, has helped me a lot as I heal. It's not easy, but as you practice these things you'll gain the ability to be mindful for longer periods of time.

What do you think of the suggestions your T made? Is there one you like or can grasp better than another?

Wools

 I started reading Trap of Happiness. It seems that mindfulness and ACT ( acceptance and commitment therapy) are intertwined .

   Instead of “running away” from negative thoughts, be mindful of them, let them flow without judgment then stay in the moment. If the thought is fear from the future or ruminating the past then practice clarity - that the thought is irrelevant to the present moment.

 To apply it to us here suffering on the detachment boards, ruminating will not change anything so why not live the moment instead ?  I think my new T may have thought I’m a bit more advanced than I am


Title: Re: New therapist suggestions- relevant ?
Post by: finallyout on April 29, 2022, 02:31:13 AM
If you want to practice mindfulness, I strongly suggest the "waking up" app by Sam Harris. It helped me a lot in difficult times.


Title: Re: New therapist suggestions- relevant ?
Post by: Rev on April 29, 2022, 06:58:48 AM
Hey Hero.

A.C.T is an outstanding approach.

Google Steven Hayes - he has a website. He's the father of ACT.

Rev