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Title: My daughter is 41 Post by: Ollypaw on October 31, 2023, 05:00:19 PM Hello,
I’m here because I have severed ties with my daughter. She has never be diagnosed with anything because she feels nothing is wrong with her and that everyone else is at fault. For a long time(20 plus years)I have known she is a borderline. I have been emotionally abused for the last time by her. I will no longer endure her abuse. My question is how do I possibly maintain my relationship with my granddaughter, who is 12? My daughter has never been in a stable environment or a stable relationship. I had previously maintained my relationship with my daughter in order to have a relationship with my granddaughter. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you Title: Re: My daughter is 41 Post by: kells76 on November 01, 2023, 10:51:44 AM Hi Ollypaw and welcome to the boards :hi: There are many grandparents here in similar situations, so you are definitely not alone.
I’m here because I have severed ties with my daughter. She has never be diagnosed with anything because she feels nothing is wrong with her and that everyone else is at fault. For a long time(20 plus years)I have known she is a borderline. I have been emotionally abused for the last time by her. What was the "turning point" -- did something specific happen? My question is how do I possibly maintain my relationship with my granddaughter, who is 12? My daughter has never been in a stable environment or a stable relationship. I had previously maintained my relationship with my daughter in order to have a relationship with my granddaughter. How has your relationship with your GD12 been so far? Frequent contact, fairly positive...? Does your GD12 have a phone of her own? And do you know what school GD12 goes to? ... Many pwBPD use their children more as objects to manage/control other relationships, rather than as unique individuals to be nurtured. It's a really painful part of having a pwBPD in your life who has children. Are any of you in therapy/counseling at all? It can help to have a neutral professional providing support -- sometimes these situations are so beyond the norm that not all friends or family understand. Keep us in the loop on how things are going; kells76 |