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Title: Having to make a decision; Stay or Leave Post by: Gamgee on February 07, 2024, 05:45:23 AM Hi All,
I found this support site looking for emotional blackmail solutions for my marriage of 19 years. I am quite exhausted and thinking about throwing in the towel to preserve my own health. I believe he is a BPD/Covert Narc after many years of "trying" to do the right thing for him. I am learning to provide better boundaries, which he resists vehemently which only adds to my giving up. I am looking for my own emotional and psychological support and health thanks, Gamgee Title: Re: Having to make a decision; Stay or Leave Post by: kells76 on February 07, 2024, 12:29:28 PM Hello Gamgee and *welcome*
Wow, almost 2 decades is a long time to cope with PD behaviors. No wonder you're exhausted -- I can hardly imagine. Do you two have any children? And tell me a little more about this: I am learning to provide better boundaries are you working on boundaries in therapy/counseling? or more on your own? Real boundaries (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61684.0) do take some learning and work, and often, when we make those changes to "the dance" with a BPD partner, the partner doesn't like that. That is normal and expected; sometimes that phenomenon is called an extinction burst (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=85479.0). What boundaries have you tried? What does it look like for him to resist? We'll be here for you; kells76 |