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« Reply #120 on: September 19, 2011, 09:12:39 AM »

I'm trying to remember the term/coined phrase I learned from someone creative on the forum that describes a technique we use in communicating with our BPD family members to discourage overly emotional interactions.  An approach that includes keeping the tone of your message supportive yet without inviting dependence/enmeshment.  Usually it involves the boundary of keeping the message brief.  Not hot, not cold.  What was that phrase I'm thinking of? 
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« Reply #121 on: September 19, 2011, 05:45:52 PM »

In Workshops, what does US stand for? I feel like I should be able to figure this out, but am dumbfounded. Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #122 on: September 29, 2011, 08:10:28 AM »

In Workshops, what does US stand for? I feel like I should be able to figure this out, but am dumbfounded. Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)

It's actually not an abbreviation! It means "US" as in "nons" as opposed to other workshops that focus on understanding BPD.
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« Reply #123 on: October 04, 2011, 04:30:15 PM »

What does IDV mean? As in IDV court? Thanks!
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« Reply #124 on: December 08, 2011, 07:13:45 PM »

What does IDV mean? As in IDV court? Thanks!

Integrated Domestic Violence.  Some states combine civil and criminal matters;  that can streamline things but it can also rob the accused of their rights in some cases - something to be careful about if you are accused of a crime.
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« Reply #125 on: December 18, 2011, 02:31:50 PM »

Ooh Thank the God I found this,   Idea  the abreviations in my head were, well... .
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« Reply #126 on: December 25, 2011, 01:12:08 PM »

Thank you for this... .WOW!  Printed and saved for reference Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #127 on: January 08, 2012, 01:19:41 AM »

I'm new here and would appreciate a list of acronyms, as I'm kinda confused half the time.

I know what BPD means or I wouldn't even be here. But asdfBPDjkl doesn't mean much to me, and some of the other ones I've been reading confuse me too.

I understand that a lot of them are shorthand to keep family members names out for anonymity by just describing the relationships... .but I could still need the secret decoder ring! Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #128 on: January 08, 2012, 07:55:39 AM »

Hello greykitty

You can find the acronyms here

(It is under the sticky "frequently asked technical questions" on top of this board)

Yes, I was also confused the first time  

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« Reply #129 on: January 08, 2012, 10:15:35 AM »

Thank you very much! I'm much better now Smiling (click to insert in post)

Hmm... .perhaps there is an opportunity here to make some slight improvements on this board for new members... .But this is a minor problem--I've noticed the ambassador program and saw several people in it responding to me right away. THAT is 10x as important as stuff like the abbreviation list, and I've found it now.
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« Reply #130 on: January 08, 2012, 11:42:20 AM »

Thank you very much! I'm much better now Smiling (click to insert in post)

Hmm... .perhaps there is an opportunity here to make some slight improvements on this board for new members... .But this is a minor problem--I've noticed the ambassador program and saw several people in it responding to me right away. THAT is 10x as important as stuff like the abbreviation list, and I've found it now.

Yeah, the staff have tried to provide a decoder ring but it's never easy for everybody to find.

I think we're best to try to stay away from lots of abbreviations everybody doesn't know.  It doesn't take that long to type out "person with BPD" instead of "pwBPD", and then everyone will know for sure what we mean.
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« Reply #131 on: January 11, 2012, 04:08:02 PM »

Just wondering... .what does NC mean?
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« Reply #132 on: January 11, 2012, 04:56:45 PM »

I seem to recall you are working things out with your H (husband) and have some children.  There are a bunch of abbreviations and even a whole online dictionary for them.  Here are a few that you will likely find useful for your posts.

NC = No Contact only applies to someone who has completely left the relationship including calls and email

LC = Low Contact is similar except there is minimal contact often due to shared children.  

MC = Marriage Counselor (Counseling)

S9 = Son aged 9 (could be any number)

D12 = Daughter aged 12

r/s = relationship

T = Therapist

pwBPD = Person with BPD

SS or SD = Step son or daughter

FOG = Fear Obligation Guiilt

You will likely be able to pick up any others that you need fairly easily.  
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« Reply #133 on: February 02, 2012, 11:53:43 AM »

I don't understand all of the abbreviations... .? ? ?

I've never been a member of a board who's members use SO many abbreviations for SO many different terms, and SO many variations of the abbreviations.

I fully realize that there is a perfectly good reference guide in one of the boards that explains the meanings of common abbreviations, but I feel like there should be a guide in the header of the website that lists all known abbreviations and their meanings. It really stinks when I'm right in the middle of reading something and I absolutely can't figure out what the poster is trying to say with the abbreviation they've used.

I'm stuck on MC... .

Doesn't make any sense, I can't make sense of it, and it's not included in the glossary of terms.
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« Reply #134 on: February 02, 2012, 11:56:04 AM »

I guess I mostly just don't understand how people can post topics that are SO articulate, and SO detailed and then randomly use abbreviations at points of their topic.

Well, anyway... .I'll continue writing out all of my words.
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« Reply #135 on: February 02, 2012, 12:30:06 PM »

MC probably means "marriage counselor" or "marriage counseling".

Sorry you're frustrated by all the abbreviations.  I kind of agree with you - we're all better communicators when we write stuff out - but I think too much typing is inconvenient for some members.

Any other abbreviations that still aren't clear?
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« Reply #136 on: September 06, 2012, 08:37:20 AM »

I see r/s all over the place.   Please define.

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« Reply #137 on: September 06, 2012, 08:57:51 AM »

I see r/s all over the place.   Please define.

Thanks.

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« Reply #138 on: January 13, 2013, 02:58:08 PM »

I'm sure this is something I could easily have figured out on my own, but apparently I haven't... .  what does "SO" and "FM" mean... .  they are at the left margin of the topics.

Thank you!

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« Reply #139 on: January 13, 2013, 03:04:29 PM »

It is about who in the family suffers from BPD.

FM is Family member, not partner or child

SO is significant other, a partner, husband, wife, girl/boyfriend.

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« Reply #140 on: January 13, 2013, 03:07:06 PM »

I thought that was the case initially, but then I realized very few posts had initials next to them... .  I notice that some have stars next to them too.
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« Reply #141 on: January 13, 2013, 03:09:55 PM »

The stars are Workshops or special educational threads.

Spotting out for threads with stars could be wise. 
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« Reply #142 on: January 13, 2013, 03:11:34 PM »

OK... .  so the "SO" and "FM" are just random... .  that makes sense to me.

Thank you so much for the info!

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« Reply #143 on: January 13, 2013, 03:13:08 PM »

I have merged your questions with an existing thread on this board.  If you take a look at reply #1 on this thread, you will see most of the abbreviations that we use on our site.

Hope this helps.  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #144 on: January 13, 2013, 03:15:38 PM »

Want2know... .  I've already viewed that, thank you... .  but the "SO" and "FM" didn't show up on it... .  I think I get it now... .  It appears as if maybe the author of the topic volunteers those initials, maybe?
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« Reply #145 on: January 13, 2013, 03:19:25 PM »

Sometimes the poster will designate the r/s themselves.  If not, an ambassador or staff member will do it.  This is only done on the New Members board.
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« Reply #146 on: January 13, 2013, 03:22:12 PM »

The second column has mainly just symbols of papers... .  but a few have initials... .  usuall either "SO" or "FM".  I've found they mean significant other or family member... .  which makes sense... .  but it doesn't seem to be consistent... .  no biggie... .  just thought maybe I was missing something.
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« Reply #147 on: January 13, 2013, 03:26:16 PM »

The second column has mainly just symbols of papers... .  but a few have initials... .  usuall either "SO" or "FM".  I've found they mean significant other or family member... .  which makes sense... .  but it doesn't seem to be consistent... .  no biggie... .  just thought maybe I was missing something.

If you are a long standing member, or someone bypassed our New Member board, they may not have this designation.  I just found this on one of the pages in this thread:

These abbreviations are for newbies posting on the new member board .  The abbreviations identify the category of newbie (the relationship of the person with BPD in the new members life) so that regular members can more quickly identify people to help.  These abbreviations also identify newbies in the "unread posts" lists so that we all know there is somene new that needs our help.

When you see these designations - please show your support.



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« Reply #148 on: February 15, 2013, 07:07:19 AM »

pwBPD?

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« Reply #149 on: February 15, 2013, 07:11:13 AM »

pwBPD?

Thanks!

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