Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh.
—Leonard CohenFrom this
interesting blog from "shadowlight".
After I finally stopped allowing myself to use cutting as a coping technique, I seriously toyed with the idea of getting the following 2 latin phrases tattooed on my wrists:
Vincit omnia veritas (truth conquers all) and
Sub specie aeternitatis (
under the aspect of eternity). They would be reminders not to cut, to honor a promise I made to myself NOT to kill myself, and as a commitment to heal.
Here's a really good website form I used in the past when I was still struggling with wanting to cut:
Assessing your immediate need to self-injure.
It "talked me down from the ledge" many times. I self-injured because it acted like a light-switch, turning off the too-painful feelings of emotional pain. Physical pain is manageable and controllable: I'm in charge. Recently I've been struggling with the urge again after years of not cutting. But I'm working with my T on that. I find I think about it more when I'm not using my healthy coping mechanisms (proper sleep, nutrition, exercise, healthy relationships).

to all the people who are struggling when their loved one SI's. It was really hard for my mom, I know.