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« on: November 25, 2011, 05:03:46 PM »

My partner suffers from very intrusive violent thoughts as a result of her BPD but she also seems to have a fascination with blood. She has been cutting for the past few weeks and I have since found out she also keeps a small container with her blood in. Now none of this is normal but I was wondering if this is a common trait amongst sufferers?. I am also seeking advice on how I should handle this situation? should I take it off of her? maybe confront her? she doesn't know I know yet but surely keeping this disturbing object is detrimental to her progress.
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« Reply #1 on: November 25, 2011, 07:17:45 PM »

Is she being treated by a doctor?  It might bear mentioning to the doc, but to confront her on it is probably a bad idea.

I have read in numerous places that BPD sufferers do sometimes resort to cutting / self-harm.

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« Reply #2 on: November 25, 2011, 07:27:12 PM »

She is seeing both her GP and a therapist. I was thinking of contacting her therapist but I'm not sure what they would be able to do or if they could even speak to me because of confidentiality issues.
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« Reply #3 on: November 26, 2011, 12:06:39 PM »

Perhaps you could contact the GP, let them know you've seen her cutting, and leave it at that.  They can check her for signs of self-harm as part of a normal exam.    My ex-bf (uBPD) and I are still living together.  He has been very ill lately (since he lost his job back in July) - and one of the suggestions given to me by the employee assistance program I have access to at work, was to contact HIS primary care physician to offer concerns about him being potentially suicidal.  (Unfortunately, he hasn't been to his doc in about 2 years, so that wasn't going to work)

Still, in your case, as long as your lady is seeing a doc regularly, it might bear mentioning to them.  The GP could tell the therapist if he/she sees signs of cutting, and it could all be managed without you having to say a word to her about it.
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