Your story strikes a chord as we are the same age (well actually you are drinking from the fountain of youth slightly more im 28 ...boo!
I know at the moment it may be hard to see but you were given a blessing in disguise of three months However i understand due to the intensity of these individuals and drawing upon my experience and my best girlfriend's experience it can be devastating nevertheless.
My Girlfriend met a guy in April/May and from what she told me immediately my BPD horns pricke up!
I got to meet this guy myself and things stuck out however i had no idea for what she would tell me after that weekend we all spent together when she called me in tears (im sre this was August) to let me know how he had dumped her and not only this, he delivered this "kind" blow the same weekend we all spent together
My dear friend had been somehow holding herself together and when she divulged the cruelty... NPD's are great actors. However he did not have me hoodwinked fully there was just something about this guy, the way he persued her, the whole story read like one of ours?
I showed my friend these boards, talked to her about BPD/NPD behaviours and then... surprise surprise... the guy who had so badly wanted to move to our hometown to be with my friend, the guy who professed his love to my friend after a few weeks, the guy who dedicated a song to my friend via video publicly on FB .. found another woman.. also broadcast over FB leaving her heartbroken.
Marble you are in the prime of life, run! Dont walk, work through your pain but realise your worth so much more.
It still amazes me how they dont tell us about the ex wifes... mine told me about his due to default (we first were friends before we entered a relationship) however when he cheated on me with the first girl he was grooming to take my place he did not tell her about having been married before and i can bet he possibly hasn't told his latest girlfriend about his ex wife.
I read your story on another thread you know still i can't believe the "cruelty" that each of us has suffered i think thats the hardest part of this journey at times...
MovingForward and EL no it makes total sense, i read also they prefer long distance and it would definately make sense r.e engulfment/intimacy etc Its so interesting to read everyones stories and what they witnessed.