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Author Topic: What is that intense stare, dilated pupils, crazy eyes?  (Read 5356 times)
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« Reply #10 on: November 13, 2014, 08:27:41 AM »

Look in the mirror the next time you are highly emotionally aroused... your eyes will also be dilated.   cool


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« Reply #11 on: November 14, 2014, 03:01:29 AM »

It's funny but my relative in the Police had been trained to see dilated irises as a danger sign (or that someone is on drugs, or both). In fact only yesterday they pointed out someone on TV had "Psycho eyes". lol

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« Reply #12 on: December 20, 2016, 03:46:27 PM »

threads like this is why i love this board so much.

I have seen the "crazy eyes" so many times... usually a precursor to a rage escalating from "just angry" to "absurdly psychotic." It would start with silence too, and for the person who said "its almost like they are hearing the voices in their head and cant handle it" i would totally agree with that depiction.

on the other side of the coin... that distant look when they've dissociated... seen that so many times as well.

Its just so creepy (but also empowering) to hear people who have practically the same exact experience I have had.
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« Reply #13 on: December 22, 2016, 01:09:01 PM »

Wow, I just found this thread and am surprised to see that it is not just my pwBPD that stares. In my case it seems scary at times but mostly like she is in a state (dissociation?) that I do not understand. Correctly or incorrectly I do not know, but I normally take it as a sign to keep my distance physically and verbally.
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« Reply #14 on: January 03, 2017, 11:24:39 AM »

Friends, When my BPDxW was in this condition, I used to refer to her as having "eyes like pinwheels."  That was the best way I could describe it.  Now I understand from this thread that there is a biological basis for my observation!  Thanks to all, LuckyJim

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« Reply #15 on: February 24, 2017, 08:41:12 AM »

I know it sounds uneducated and silly to say - but I would have to completely agree.

My ex had "crazy-eyes" and the dissociative stare to go along with it. It wasn't just me. My best friend told me this the day he met her.

I think it might be that their stress levels are always super high causing facial muscle tension plus any dissociate stares just emphasize it.

It's like looking at the pictures that get taken on rollercoaster rides - > everyone has crazy eyes in those pics.

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« Reply #16 on: February 24, 2017, 08:54:05 AM »

Very scary...I know the last night we hooked up...after we were done and just talking...I looked her in the eyes and it was like she wasn't even present...she was staring through me...no emotion...like she was a soulless person... I never seen anything like that!
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« Reply #17 on: February 24, 2017, 03:24:52 PM »

They are not soulless, just misconfigured in a very painful way.
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