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« Reply #90 on: March 15, 2011, 06:25:33 PM »

Primary being the main partner to the BPD and secondary being the flings on the side.
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« Reply #91 on: March 15, 2011, 06:47:43 PM »

I'm not aware of any info that covers that in detail.

What would you like to know?

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« Reply #92 on: March 15, 2011, 07:38:46 PM »

Well, I believe in one of my posts it was used... calling me the primary and I saw it again in someone else's post. I was just interested in any information about that, what purposes both relationships serve.
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« Reply #93 on: March 15, 2011, 08:15:22 PM »

I've seen it too - but I don't think it's something that's really clearly understood (or even common to all cases/situations).  Essentially people have just used the terms to indicate a relationship for the pwBPD that has been longer running than the others, and one he/she tends to go back to frequently, after the shorter ones fail.  There are various reasons for a "primary partner" - the dynamic is stronger between them, the person continues to allow the pwBPD to return when others don't, etc.  Essentially I'm just saying it's a convenient short-hand for saying... . one main person the pwBPD continues to return to vs the others that he/she has shorter relationships with.  Again, that's not always the case - often a pwBPD will simply go through a string of short-term relationships without there being a primary/secondary.  Or bounce back and forth between a bunch of people (no primary or secondaries - all more or less equal).  Or... .

So I don't think there's much info on it because it's not really any more complicated than that.

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« Reply #94 on: March 15, 2011, 09:06:27 PM »

ok, thanks
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« Reply #95 on: March 16, 2011, 02:47:10 PM »

What does SO, FM, etc. mean in the left margins?
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« Reply #96 on: March 17, 2011, 07:54:52 AM »

Perhaps I have not looked for the answer throughly enough but I've tried and don't understand what "SO" means in the post icon box... .I'm assuming it means significant other, and I think the post icon box is for drawing atten to the purpose of the post, but aren't all our posts abt our SOs?  I don't get it!  LOL   Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #97 on: March 17, 2011, 08:21:33 AM »

These abbreviations are for newbies posting on the new member board .  The abbreviations identify the category of newbie (the relationship of the person with BPD in the new member's life) so that regular members can more quickly identify people to help.  These abbreviations also call out newbies in the "unread posts" lists so that we all can see thath there is someone new that needs our help.

When you see these designations - please show your support and post.


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« Reply #98 on: March 24, 2011, 08:15:51 PM »

I've seen this mentioned a couple of times and not sure what it means - can someone explain?

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« Reply #99 on: March 24, 2011, 09:59:12 PM »

I've seen this mentioned a couple of times and not sure what it means - can someone explain?

Thanks!

It means, if Patty posts something, and then you and I both respond, and your post shows up just as I'm finishing, so I didn't read yours before I posted... .

... .so I say something that doesn't make a lot of sense because you already said it.

Not a big problem but it might look a little funny to somebody reading it later.  So I could say, "Sorry, I cross-posted with SisterL", and that would explain why I wrote something I wouldn't have if I'd read your post first.
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« Reply #100 on: April 18, 2011, 09:30:38 AM »

What are:

CE

DVO

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« Reply #101 on: April 18, 2011, 09:40:39 AM »

CE is usually Custody Evaluation or Custody Evaluator.
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« Reply #102 on: April 18, 2011, 10:11:47 AM »

DVO = domestic violence order
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« Reply #103 on: April 20, 2011, 08:41:32 PM »

What does this term mean?  I've seen it twice just today.  I've also seen the terms Waif, Queen, etc. and can't locate the article or post that discusses those... .can someone point me in the right direction?

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« Reply #104 on: April 20, 2011, 08:50:40 PM »

Cluster B is a term used to describe four personality disorders, which are similar, yet distinct. Those suffering from Cluster B personality disorder would have the overlapping symptoms of at least 2 of the 4. They four disorders are BPD, NPD, HPD (Histrionic Personality Disorder), and ASPD (Anti-Social Personality Disorder).

My stbxw is definitely a Cluster B. I thought for a long time she was just NPD/BPD, but further research into the subject showed me she was something different.

A Google search on Cluster B shows a lot of hits. Wikipedia is always a good place to start.

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« Reply #105 on: April 22, 2011, 11:45:01 AM »

I've also seen the terms Waif, Queen, etc. and can't locate the article or post that discusses those... .can someone point me in the right direction?

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61982.0

What does this term Cluster B. mean?  I've seen it twice just today. 

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=114843.msg1105063#msg1105063

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« Reply #106 on: May 14, 2011, 01:06:37 AM »

These abbreviations are for newbies posting on the new member board .  The abbreviations identify the category of newbie (the relationship of the person with BPD in the new member's life) so that regular members can more quickly identify people to help.  These abbreviations also call out newbies in the "unread posts" lists so that we all can see thath there is someone new that needs our help.

When you see these designations - please show your support and post.



I'm not sure if I undestand SE well. Doest it mean that an ex partner of someone significant to me has BPD e.g. my sister's ex husband? Or does it just mean that MY ex partner has BPD. And this latter one is my case - my exbf probably has BPD. I indicated myself with SO but I'm not sure if I'm right.
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« Reply #107 on: May 14, 2011, 04:04:20 AM »

 Welcome Soleo,

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)  for having done your first post and kudos for having figured out how to quote!

You know - you are not be the only one: So anyone reading this if in doubt and or confused - just leave the label. An ambassadors likely will label you (some slip through) - the main purpose of this label is to steer the attention making sure the folks with most experience and interest in your situation (whether ambassadors or existing members) can find the post and can relate to you quickly. The label is a temporary flag for your first post - nothing more and nothing less.

To answer your questions - SO sounds right.

SE is more a label for members where the partner still suffers from  PD traits after a long relationship with a pwBPD and often due to children has continuous contact with the BPD ex. Such a situation has a slightly different dynamic.

I really appreciate your question as it allows me to clear this up here. Thank you for your first contribution - please feel free to ask your first question and/or introduce yourself on the new member board. Labeled or not  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #108 on: May 14, 2011, 06:14:35 AM »

Doest it mean that an ex partner of someone significant to me has BPD e.g. my sister's ex husband?

Yes - SE is primarily for a Step parent whose spouse was married to a person with BPD (bio parent).
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« Reply #109 on: May 16, 2011, 06:37:58 AM »

Skip, anOught,

Thank you for your explanations Smiling (click to insert in post) I've aready introduced myself on the new memeber board and try to orientate myself  on this site. There is so much interesting information and even more important - compassionate, emphatic people. I'm glad to join you  
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« Reply #110 on: May 29, 2011, 06:49:51 AM »

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=95860.0
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« Reply #111 on: June 21, 2011, 03:13:58 AM »

What does "return from Oz" and other "Oz-related" names mean? I've seen them in many posts and I know they refer to the "Wizard of Oz" but what is the origin and why is it related to BPD?
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« Reply #112 on: July 01, 2011, 08:47:36 PM »

BPD I understand but where do I find dBPD and please tell me why ppl are worried about their poo?
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« Reply #113 on: July 01, 2011, 11:29:48 PM »

BPD I understand but where do I find dBPD and please tell me why ppl are worried about their poo?

Hi deesee,

The "d" stands for "diagnosed" (as opposed to "u" for "undiagnosed". I'm not sure why people are worried about their poo, though I can speculate.  Smiling (click to insert in post) I suspect they are worried about their "foo," which stands for "family of origin." Hope that helps.

What does "return from Oz" and other "Oz-related" names mean? I've seen them in many posts and I know they refer to the "Wizard of Oz" but what is the origin and why is it related to BPD?

Soleo--this may help with your question: The Wizard of Oz Metaphors

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« Reply #114 on: August 23, 2011, 03:51:24 AM »



I hardly understand the acronyms used in most of the posts - more-so when the senior members are using them, who are too-too well versed with everything said here.

Please teach me your language Smiling (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #116 on: August 23, 2011, 09:16:51 AM »

Oh, that was a totally awesome diagram!  Thank you!
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« Reply #117 on: August 24, 2011, 08:17:23 AM »

I simply love this thread - absolutely awesome. Thank you for merging my post here.

I was ROFL reading what someone actually thought LOL meant Smiling (click to insert in post)

So,  what does XOX mean   ?
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« Reply #118 on: August 28, 2011, 12:51:27 PM »

Since reading this website I've learned about several concepts such as disassociation, Karpman Drama Triangle, FOG and extinction burst, all of which are very helpful in explaining certain behavior. I was already familiar with terms like gas-lighting and projection. Is there a list of terms and concepts like this in one place on the website?
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« Reply #119 on: August 29, 2011, 12:34:12 PM »

Since reading this website I've learned about several concepts such as disassociation, Karpman Drama Triangle, FOG and extinction burst, all of which are very helpful in explaining certain behavior. I was already familiar with terms like gas-lighting and projection. Is there a list of terms and concepts like this in one place on the website?

Hi Phaedrus

If you click on the Top Questions on the Questions board, you should be able to find the answers you need. But if you still have questions, let us know.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

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