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« on: January 17, 2019, 08:19:16 PM »

Hi all,

I wrote my introduction post - but I wrote it under the one for when someone is trying to work things out and stay with their Borderline spouse — and after I wrote out all the horrors and hardships — I became very unclear about whether I’m hoping for reconciliation or not or if I’m just in survival mode.

I’m sort of on the fence now and feel as if I belong in the drawer marked, “misc”.

If I wrote my post in the wrong place though — how is that decided and is it just moved automatically?

We were considering divorce after a very traumatic and rocky separation and with his abruptly moving back.  I’m doing all I can to mostly just protect my kids from further instability - but I know I tend to neglect my own needs... .erm - I’m off on a tangent here... .sorry.

Anyway - if my post is in the wrong place - please let me know!

Also if I change my mind and decide definitely that I need to leave (and obviously take munchkins with me!) - can I ask my post be moved?

Thanks!

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« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2019, 09:38:55 PM »

Hi.

 As a new member who is still in contact with their partner even though you are not sure if you want to stay in the relationship, that is where we would home you as that is where we most talk about tools and strategies that can ease communication regardless of the level of contact. 

Once you make a decision about what sort of relationship you wish to have of course you may move boards.  Some people going through a breakup or even a divorce will continue to post on the Bettering board again due to the fact that the tools and skills are used there more frequently.

Does that make sense?
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What is your relationship status with them: I have *no clue* - which is part of why I'm here. I want out though.
Posts: 40


it's about time I said to myself, "I believe me".


« Reply #2 on: January 18, 2019, 12:31:26 AM »

Yes - that does make sense! 

And thank you!
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