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Lake Girl
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
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« on: January 04, 2021, 07:21:55 AM »

Hi, I was diagnosed BPD as a teenager and ADD as an adult. Son is 20. In hindsight, I should have seen it, but he was diagnosed ADHD when he was 8, but for 3 years now, he's been showing more signs of BPD. He failed all 5 classes last semester, but wants to go back to his house there and work, but he makes all the 'wrong' decisions based on his mood. Life-ling struggles to fall asleep/wake up. Self med with pot, but is on a break from it to see if that helps him feel better. Looking for BPD support for him and me.
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What is your sexual orientation: Confidential
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« Reply #1 on: January 04, 2021, 07:53:15 AM »

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I know the NEA-BPD is active in New York, you might be able to find the best advice from them. Resources are a "good news, bad news" in the general area right now, I don't think there are tremendous wait-times buuuuut most services are offered virtually rather than in person.

I wonder if he's seen any professionals lately? He might prefer to think of it as a "medical" condition or just a "social" problem he's going through lately. So doctor, therapist, counselor, whatever's most comfortable for him. Is it possible that he has a combination of depression (most common reason for sleep troubles) alongside his ADHD? (I've never personally seen the two together - it can happen, I just wouldn't be able to advise how it looks). But if he is lethargic (drug use, trouble waking up) then often that leads rather ironically to insomnia/falling asleep troubles.

Was he raised as an only child? Is he able to hold a job for more than eight weeks, and if so is there a particular harm you see in him pursuing that while you wait for him to get his head in a better place to re-adopt studies?

Hope things work out!

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