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Question: Did your BPD partner cheat on you?
Yes - sexual affair - 124 (53.2%)
Yes - inappropriate contact, but not intercourse. - 26 (11.2%)
I suspect something, but don't know for sure. - 44 (18.9%)
No - 26 (11.2%)
I don't know - 13 (5.6%)
Total Voters: 231

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« Reply #60 on: March 06, 2018, 09:25:40 AM »

pwBPD are experts at gaslighting. She had an ex that she still saw on a weekly basis... .and I'm sure he had no idea she was seeing me over those 5 months. She said that he was her BFF as she had known him so long and that he had been there for her two suicide attempts, but it was strictly a platonic relationship at this time. She would say that she loved him, but that she was "in love" with me... .a huge difference in her mind.

She ultimately shared that between every failed relationship she would always return to this BFF as a girlfriend/lover. This occurred over 5 years after she initially moved to town with him after college, until the BFF moved across the country. Because of her strong attachment to this guy, she started sleeping with him again while still in our relationship and before he moved out of state. We were supposed to go on holiday over xmas break when she told me that instead she was flying out to see him for 10 days because she had always imagined herself being married to him, and she wanted to make sure that he was "the one."

Of course, he wasn't 'the one' as she raged at him and hit him on New Year's Eve when she was drunk. She came back, and I was no longer "the one" either. She met a guy a week late,r and he is "most definitely" the one. She's a lucky girl... .she's had 3 "the ones" in a span of about 3 weeks!
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« Reply #61 on: March 06, 2018, 11:16:08 AM »

I learned after we split that she made out with someone after going to a bar with one of my girl friends. It made sense. After the night I suspect it happened, she began accusing me of cheating. She never admitted the cheating to me.
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« Reply #62 on: December 17, 2021, 05:20:33 PM »

I rented a car for her so that she could "get away from the stress" of the weekend- she cheated on me.    I watched her daughter while she ran off to run an "emergency errand" - she cheated on me. I showed up at her house to surprise her with gifts as she was on her way out , she took the gifts  then cheated on me . I found that anytime she said ANYTHING ambiguous - Im with family , Im running errands, Doing something important. - she was cheating on me . The thing that gets me is that every time she did it , I was so sure she was , but when she returned she always found a way to redirect my focus onto what I was doing wrong even in times when there wasnt anything. She made me feel guilty every time she did wrong. Such a mind F***!!!!
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« Reply #63 on: December 18, 2021, 06:43:01 AM »

This one will take the cake - or a least rank up there.

My ex met her brother through ancestry DNA and ... well ... there you go.
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