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« on: June 26, 2007, 10:24:55 AM »

bpdfamily.com is a very safe place in which to post. The site uses the National Security Agency (NSA) Digital Signature Algorithm and all transactions (posting messages) are encrypted. Besides, there are over 3 million other, similar, posts here.

Being discovered here is a very rare occurrence and virtually always because you told your loved one that you posted here or you left a phone or computer unattended.

Here are a few simple safeguards.  

1. Do not tell your loved one about bpdfamily.com. Our forums are not a venue for a member to "get" his/her loved one to see his/her side of things.  Make sure you don't goad your loved one by mentioning a "forum" in which people have suggested that you do this or that, even if you aren't mentioning bpdfamily.com by name.  Don't print posts or information from our site and give it to your loved one to read.

2.  Log out when you step away.   Even if you don't share daily use of your computer with someone, it is possible that your spouse, partner, child, etc., might gain access  - he/she may have keys to your living quarters or may spend time in your home when you are not there or even when you are sleeping.  
 
If you share your computer, logout of bpdfamily.com and close your browser every time you walk away from your computer if you share your computer with someone else.  

Take care to erase your browsing history.   Read the next reply for information about protecting your use of the computer while online.  Be sure you know who has administrative authority on your computer; don't allow anyone to have administrative authority if they shouldn't have it.  
 
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If you want to change your userID after reading these guidelines, please contact a staff member.  It is confusing when members change names, so only do this if necessary and please inform the staff.
 
Thanks for being a contributing member!   If you have any concerns, we will work with you to help you guarantee your anonymity on this board.

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« Reply #1 on: June 29, 2007, 05:22:56 PM »

Sharing a computer and need to erase your trail?

Ah, if only we could trust those around us... .  here are some measures to help us keep our privacy as best we can.  Some of these actions can also delete cookies, so if that happens then previously visited web sites may not remember you automatically.

If you use Mozilla's FireFox (available for free download from www.mozilla.com) you can customize the privacy options from Tools > Options > Privacy > Private Data, select Always clear my private data when I close FireFox.  Click on the settings button to specify which items to erase.

If you use Mozilla's FireFox and want to manually clear private data, then go to Tools > Clear Private Data.  (The shortcuts are Ctrl+Shift+Delete or Alt+T then P.)  Make your selection, press OK and they're erased!

There is a FireFox add-on that will selectively delete browsing history (turn off / turn back on) during the ":)istrust" plug-in session as described in a post below.

What about Internet Explorer 7?  It does not have an option to delete private data upon exiting the browser.  You can set it to save pages for 0 days, so that the next day it is started it is deleted.  Go to Tools > Internet Options > General > Browsing History > Settings > History, then set Days to Keep Pages in History to 0.

If you use Internet Explorer 7 and want to manually clear private data, then go to Tools > Internet Options > General > Browsing History > Delete, then either delete all or the specific data types.

I am unfamiliar with Safari for Apple computers.  My search results indicate from the Safari menu you can select Safari - Reset Safari, then confirm by pressing the Reset button.  If that is too drastic for you, you can empty just the cache by selecting Safari – Empty Cache and if prompted then click on Empty.

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« Reply #2 on: October 22, 2007, 05:46:06 AM »

Hello moderators or advisors... .

I've read certain posts that indicate some people have significant others who may "find" them on this site.  If someone doesn't know about www-page-not-found-net, how could they be found here?  Maybe I'm internet ignorant this way - could someone do a google search of my name and will this site come up?  I'd hate to think the person I'm discussing on these boards could somehow "find" me here and identify me. 

Maybe I'm being paranoid.

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« Reply #3 on: October 22, 2007, 08:26:23 AM »

99% of people that get found here left a computer open with bpdfamily.

Log out. Set your browser to eliminate cookies when you log out.
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« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2008, 08:08:30 PM »



   I use Safari and you can clear the history under the "history"drop-down menu on the menu bar. There is also an option under the "Safari" drop-down menu called Private Browsing. When private browsing is turned on, webpages are not added to the history, items are automatically removed from the Downloads window, information isn't saved for AutoFill (including names and passwords), and searches are not added to the pop-up menu in the Google search box. Until you close the window, you can still click the Back and Forward buttons to return to webpages you have opened... .as far as the history items being recoverable in some other way after they have been cleared... .not sure about that one, but it sounds like enabling the private browsing option would be the best bet there.
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« Reply #5 on: April 11, 2008, 09:27:58 AM »

If your sharing a computer - you'll love FireFox

Check out the Distrust plugin:

https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/1559

What distrust does is it starts a completely new session in your browser.  When you are done using Distrust, you end the session, and Distrust will automatically delete all cookies, history and downloads that occurred during that session. 

Everything from before the session will remain.  So you can surf all day to your normal sites, then start Distrust and come here.  When you're done, end Distrust, and your history will reflect only those places you visited before.  This is actually even better than deleting all of your history, which is kind of a dead giveaway that you're trying to hide a site you visited.
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« Reply #6 on: July 19, 2008, 09:25:43 AM »

Concerned a family member has discovered you here or has your password?

Do not post onboard that you believe that someone has access to your computer or has found your posts here.    That could confirm your identity to them!  

If you have concerns:

1) Change your password

2) Stop Posting

3) Password protect your computer

4) Contact a moderator  - there are many things we can do to help you including an immediate lock down of your membership while you put other precautions in place.

Stay cool!

With 100,000 memberships to hid in, you've got a lot of cover.

We get reports from time to time that someone feels they are being stalked or another member may be their SO spying on them.  When we research them 90% of the time we can verify that it is not the person they think it is.  

If you suspect a keylogger, have the computer looked over for malware by any geek... .it's all easy to find... .and it doen't take much time or cost much money.  If you are a "do it yourself-er" - go here.

Safe posting!

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« Reply #7 on: May 24, 2009, 09:44:25 PM »

There are also "portable" versions of web browser (FireFox, Opera) that can be installed on a flash/usb drive.  The Firefox version is available at www.portableapps.com/apps/internet/firefox_portable

I set my portable version to prompt me to "clear my private data" when I close the browser.

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« Reply #8 on: May 25, 2009, 01:24:42 PM »

I wanted to update this topic since I'm no longer relying on the distrust plugin.

Google Chrome is a free browser from, you guessed it, Google.  It's a simple, no-frills fast browser, but that's not what I use it for.  They have what they call an "Incognito" mode.  You open a new window in Incognito mode, and the browser simply will not record any traces of your visit.  No cache, no cookies, nothing.

Essentially, it's the same thing as the distrust plugin, but far easier to use.  When you open a window in Incognito mode, all you have to do is close the window, and everything is gone.  With Distrust, you still have to go to the menu and choose "End session."  I've also had a few times when Distrust didn't work perfectly, and I found traces later.

The other advantage is that most people don't even know what Chrome is, so they won't even think to look there.  They'll check the internet history of IE, and find nothing.
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« Reply #9 on: July 06, 2009, 08:25:10 PM »

The free browser, Mozilla FireFox, has been updated to version 3.5 and besides being much faster, it now has built-in support for a Private Browsing mode that you can toggle on and off.

  Tools menu, Start Private Browsing... .

  Tools menu, Clear Recent History... .(in case you didn't use the Private Browsing mode)

While you shouldn't entrust your entire future expecting these features to work flawlessly every time (I haven't unplugged my computer to determine whether the Private Browsing mode was compromised by a computer crash), it is very useful for those of us who come here on shared computers and want to avoid facing World War III.

This Private Browsing mode is similar to Google Chrome's Incognito mode.  Isn't it nice to have choices?
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« Reply #10 on: March 14, 2011, 09:28:39 AM »

I just wanted to add my $0.02 here too.

Some suggestions to make browsing as private as possible. Some of this has been talked about above and suggested, but I wanted to be as through as possible and all in one place.

1) Use a totally out of character username for the forum. Something someone who knows you would never guess.

2) Use a completely dedicated, web based email address. And only access it through private browsing (see below). Google, Yahoo and Hotmail are some of the more common ones. Also make this something no one else would guess.

3) Use InPrivate Browsing. Just about all the major internet browsers have some form of this now. Internet Explorer 8 has this listed under "safety" on the tool bar. When used, this stops the computer from logging any info to your HDD (hard drive) including cookies, and history.

4)Password protect your computer. Most of the newer OS' out there have a very simple interface for this. Even a search on the web or in the help topics will be enough for most people to get this up and running. Generally speaking, the bigger the password the better... .

For a lot of people the above steps could be enough. If you're still concerned, some of the following may help.

5) Make sure you have a reputable Anti-virus/Anti-malware software installed. These should find most tracking cookies and malicious software. Including some software based keyloggers.

6)For windows users, check your Task Manager and Processes Tab for programs running that you are not familure with. If you're not sure about something, right click on the [Insert name here].exe and go to properties. If you're still not sure, Google is golden . Do a quick search just to see what the program is. Do NOT just randomly start shutting down processes though! That could cause your computer to become unstable and act "wonky" at best and crash at worst.

7) Hardware based Keyloggers are VERY noticable. They plug into your computer and your keyboard plugs into them. Old style PS2 keyboards (round plug with pins inside) may be a problem since most computers only have that socket at the back, but the easiest way to deal with USB keyboards is to either plug them into the front of your computer or use a simple USB hub that sits on you're desktop in plain view.

8) If you feel the need to bookmark something, only do so on an encrypted drive. Windows 7 Professional and Ultimate editions come with free encryption software called "Bit Locker". In my case I have an OLD 10 GB HDD that is encrypted, this needent be anything fancy and picking up an old HDD off Kijiji or Craigslist is normally pretty cheap. You can configure the software so the drive is always encrypted (locked) when you start your computer. When you shut down after unlocking the drive the next time the computer is turned on it will be locked again. There is also a "mobile" version of this software, it works for USB drives and memory cards/sticks. Word of warning though! When you first encrypt the drive, you are given a "key". If you forget your password this is the only way to recover the information on that drive. If you save this key to your computer it's the digital equivelant of leaving you're extra house key under the door mat... .not much point Laugh out loud (click to insert in post) . My solution to this is I haven't saved anything vitally important to the encrypted drive. If I loose the data, it's not the end of the world. Also for this reason, I don't recommend encrypting your whole HDD. There is also freeware encryption software on the net, I just can't speak to it's effectiveness.

For people with a Home Network.

9) Routers log EVERYTHING that goes through them to some extent. The Router Log contains Ip addresses showing what, where and when you've been somewhere on the net, even if you're browsing privately. Each model of router is going to be a little different, so some research into your particular model is going to be needed if this is a concern for you. Most people don't even know about this and even fewer yet know what they are looking at if they do stumble across it. The easiest way to protect yourself here is to make sure you have a strong, random password for your router's interface page. (Again, it's going to vary from model to model, but try typing in 192.168.1.1 into you're browsers address line to see your router's page. All the routers I've had used this internal address by default. Default username and Password on my last 2 different routers was "admin" and "admin" respectivly)

10) Make sure you're not sharing anything that could be considered "sensative" on your home network. Easiest way to ensure this is turn off network shareing for you're files/HDDs.

One extreme step... .

11) If after all that you're still concerned. There are free OS' (Operating Systems) out there. Most of them are Linux based and can actually be run off of a CD or DVD (called a LiveCD). I've only downloaded a few to try out but there are a WIDE variety of them. For the most part how this works is you download the OS from the website and burn the ISO file (Disk image) to a CD or DVD. When you want to use the disk, simply put it in your CD/DVD drive, start up and boot from that drive (there should be an option for this in your BIOS under "boot priority" or something along those lines). The OS will ask you if you want to "try" or "install", choose Try. The advantage to this option is NO information what-so-ever will be on your regular OS and NOTHING of your session with the LiveCD can be tracked (except for on the router)... .but, it is a little bit of a pain because you'll have to configure the whole system and your internet connection EVERY time you use it. For a list of possible OS' google "FreeByte Operating systems", Freebyte is a site that has links to MANY downloads for a WIDE variety of programs.

Due to the wide variety of software and hardware out there, I can't possible be able to give details for how to go about all this... .I'm just posting this as a starting point, something for you to look into if security is a concern.

And now, ALL that said... .there's still no way to say 100% "I'm secure!"... .there is ALWAYS a risk and there's only so much you can do. This is the internet, once something is put out there, it's there for good.
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« Reply #11 on: March 14, 2011, 09:53:54 AM »

Here is a tip for those in sensitive situations who may share a computer with other people and are concerned about privacy after they walk away... .

When you leave the session and walk away: LogOut.

Many of us log in for a predetermined length of time, so why not then let our session time out automatically on its own?  While under normal circumstances that is fine, a determined person might change the computer's system time and set it back into a time period when the session had been active or before it was to time out.  If the time was moved back then our session would not appear logged out and our site's software would believe it was still within the specified time you set and allow logged in member access.

If your computer does not save the browser 'cookies' or you use your browser's Private Browsing feature then this may not be an issue, but most of us don't have 'cookies' turned off or may not be Private Browsing.
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