Article 6: 
Helping a Loved-One with Borderline Personality Disorder Seek Treatment
Caring, loving and wanting
to help are all natural feelings. Giving what you intuitively think is needed is often not the help that someone else wants, needs or knows how to accept - and this can be very frustrating to you and to them. Whether you'd like to rescue them to truly "save them," or to end their pain, or more selfishly have them "in your life" you can only lead. They can choose to follow in their own time and way. Understanding how to lead requires training. Understanding your capacity and capability to do so, requires much self reflection.
According to Dr. Xavier Amador, professor in Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, denial is a most powerful deterrent to recovery in mental illness. What is often thought to be immaturity, stubbornness, and defensiveness is a much more complex and difficult problem. Amador and his colleagues found in a 1994 study that nearly sixty percent (60%) of patients with mental illness did not believe they were ill. And trying to convince them often made matters worse. This article includes excerpts from one of Dr. Amador's speeches, a preface based on the writings of Richard O'Connor, PhD, and a video documentary, and a video lecture from Dr. Amador.
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