Get Me Out of Here - Rachel Reiland

[Is it worth giving up blame to give your child happiness?]

Is it worth giving up blame to give your child happiness?
	You have the power to influence your child's well-being either positively or negatively. In fact, the only individuals who have this power are the same individuals that are feeeling the anger and the blame. Conflict has a high cost to both the parents and the child. The cost of child security, self-esteem, confidence, emotional control, happiness, normal personality development, and a range of other considerations. You can stop the conflict on your end.
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[KHat]

I read this book this past summer and greatly enjoyed it.  For me it was important since I have no firsthand experience with the pwBPD in my life (my BF's xW) and it was a way for me to get "up close and personal" with the BPD thought processes without having to experience it myself.  That said, I realize that every person is different, as is every BPD manifestation.  But some of it spoke to that part of my brain that thought maybe he was exaggerating some of his stories, since Rachel was very diligent in describing what was churning behind her emotional, seemingly knee-jerk reactions.

It also provided me with a sense of hope, in that someone with enough determination to get well for the sake of others could learn methods to combat BPD behavior, to the point that she is more or less "cured".  I thought her therapist was an amazing person and practitioner, and wish that others who accepted BPD patients could model his behaviors rather than sometimes see dollar signs in the advantage to keeping someone sick and dependent.