Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
May 02, 2024, 03:57:57 AM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: Cat Familiar, EyesUp, SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Books members most read
105
The High
Conflict Couple
Loving Someone with
Borderline Personality Disorder
Loving the
Self-Absorbed
Borderline Personality
Disorder Demystified

Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: "I curse the day I met you"  (Read 438 times)
joshbjoshb
***
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 241


« on: October 26, 2015, 08:43:18 AM »

So after a long time of relative calm, my wife is on the rampage again. I am not sure what triggered it.

So today she calls me and yells for a while for all things that are wrong with her, and how it's all because of me, and she is cursing the day she met me.

I hanged up the phone.

Is that a boundary? A good thing? Does your spouse tells you things like that, and if yes - how do you react?

Would love to hear Smiling (click to insert in post)
Logged
PLEASE - NO RUN MESSAGES
This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members may appear frustrated but they are here for constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

walbsy7
**
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married 3.5 years
Posts: 82


WWW
« Reply #1 on: October 26, 2015, 08:13:03 PM »

I am not sure if that is setting a boundary or not. I tend to do the same thing, which I believe can come off as not validating. But I chose silence, or temporarily leaving, or "cooling off" even though I am calm, and those things haven't gotten me anywhere because I am not being emotionally supportive of her and abandoning her. I look forward to advice in situations like this as well
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!