BPD son 25 admitted to hospital for drug overdose

[FaithHopeLove]

So here is the latest in this horrible journey. Right after my husband agreed to be strong in enforcing the boundary of not allowing our drug addict BPD son to come to our house and deciding it was safe for me to come home I find that DS is in the hospital with a cocaine overdose. He survived but just barely. I must steel myself for whatever comes next up to and  including suicide. I have no idea how to do that.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Margarete]

Faith , that is so painful and scary. Living with the idea that we could lose our children is overwhelming and paralyzing (at least for me). I wish I had advice that makes a difference but the only thing I can think of is: One breath at a time...
I am sure you picked your avatar name for a reason... keep it. Sending you as many positive vibes I can activate right now.
Margarete

[PeaceMom]

Faith,
I’ve been keeping up with your story and I am so sorry for your pain, fear, anguish and confusion. Every time you post describing your son’s behavior I immediately wonder if he might be experiencing BiPolar Mania. In my experience his escalating, strange behavior might fit. If so, he could absolutely benefit from medication which can stabilize the elevated brain. I know you are weary beyond belief, but if you could let the hospital social worker know that he is currently a danger to himself and others and should in no way be quickly discharged, they may put a 72 hr mandatory psych hold on him. Faith, you are in crisis. When I have been right where you are, my T says eat, sleep and breathe. Faith, brighter days are ahead for you

[Swimmy55]

FHL, you are in my thoughts. I am so grateful that he is alive and in the place he needs to be right now.  One hour at a time. 

[Swimmy55]

Like PeaceMom states, do those baby steps: eat , shower, dress.” When you don’t know what to do , get up, dress up, show up and never give up”.

[Kwamina]

Hi FaithHopeLove

This is some very tragic news again. I am glad your son survived and is in hospital, yet this only makes clear again that he really needs outside help from specialized professionals to hopefully stabilize his moods and behaviors.

Where are you at the moment? Did you indeed go back home?

How did your husband respond to the news of your son's drug overdose?

The Board Parrot

[mggt]

So sorry to hear this  Sending hugs and prayers

[Harri]

Hello Faith.   

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Please do lean on us and check in when you can.

[FaithHopeLove]

I am home with my husband now. We are arranging for some couple's counseling. When my H went to the hospital my son was in restraints raging at people. I don't think I need to see him like that. Maybe I will visit after he is stabilized. At any rate, both my H and I are finally in agreement that DS cannot come to our house under any circumstances unless and until he changes his behavior. I can't thank you all enough for the love and support. Right now I am completely relying on God to turn this around. My human power gave out long ago. I am sustained by the prayers of my friends.

[livednlearned]

Has he come this close before? I pray that this is the rock bottom for him, and that he meets the right professionals along the way as he recovers and makes an effort to turn his life around.

What happens next at the hospital?

At the Family Connections group I attended, the peer leaders (parents with BPD adult children) referred to BPD as a potentially fatal illness. No one in the room flinched to hear them say that, as painful as it is to have it said that way. It takes a lot of courage to face this aspect of the human condition. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Faith.

You are wise to arrange couples counseling. Your strength is inspiring.

[GaGrl]

Faith, you are absolutely on target in pursuing couples counseling.

I am sending all positive energy your way.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

It is great your husband is on the same page as you and you both will be pursing couples therapy. 

[Only Human]

I'm here with a hug. It's great you and H are seeking couple's therapy. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts, Faith.

~ OH

[Cat Familiar]

I hope your son gets the medical support he needs to stabilize in both the short term and the long term. And may the counseling bring you and your husband together in deeper trust and shared resolve.

   Cat

[Lollypop]

Hi Faith

I’m thinking about you all.

LP

[stampingt1]

Faith,

So sorry! Sending prayers & hugs your way!

 
Stampingt1

[Sadnana]

Hi Faith,
You give so much on this page supporting everyone else, so I want to send some support your way. I am so glad that you and H are going to get help!

There have been so many times that I thought I would not be able to handle my life. I would be just so dam tired that it was hard to put one foot in front of the other. I just wanted to give up, but somehow I would pull through.

I don’t have any answers but here is hoping you can get through this latest crisis putting one foot in front of the other.

All my best Sadnana