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« Reply #30 on: December 03, 2018, 09:41:51 AM »

I am hanging my ornament of speaking up and finding my voice this season.
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« Reply #31 on: December 03, 2018, 09:53:53 AM »

   Deirdre, that makes me so happy and I feel so proud for you. 

Today I hang determination.
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« Reply #32 on: December 03, 2018, 10:42:25 AM »

Today I hang my hat and try to give myself an emotional breather.
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« Reply #33 on: December 03, 2018, 09:05:29 PM »

I’m hanging reflection on the tree tonight because it’s something that I need to stay on top of. Where I am and where I’ve been.
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« Reply #34 on: December 03, 2018, 09:08:13 PM »

Mmm... .these are all so so good. I love hearing about theses gifts to ourselves, for that is truly what they are.

Rather than hanging an ornament for myself today, I am quietly sitting back and watching you all decorating the tree. I am so very proud of my family, each one of you. How wonderful that we belong together.

 
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« Reply #35 on: December 03, 2018, 09:11:10 PM »

wools, while sitting back and watching us, I hope you’re threading the popcorn. 
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« Reply #36 on: December 04, 2018, 04:22:16 AM »

I'm hanging the chocolate ornaments... .hang on, ah, make that hanging the tin foil ornaments.
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« Reply #37 on: December 04, 2018, 05:11:34 AM »

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wools, while sitting back and watching us, I hope you’re threading the popcorn.

Hangs head sheepishly (or llama-ishly)... .actually I was eating the popcorn! It was the yummy sweet salty kind, and I just couldn't resist!

There are lots of cranberries left though.
Seems as if HC and I have the same problem. 

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« Reply #38 on: December 04, 2018, 10:02:22 AM »

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« Reply #39 on: December 04, 2018, 10:12:34 PM »

Acceptance... cuz I need it right now! 
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« Reply #40 on: December 04, 2018, 10:20:32 PM »

vigor. my health is a lot better these days.

every tree needs more peanuts... .


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« Reply #41 on: December 04, 2018, 10:46:04 PM »

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every tree needs more peanuts... .
  Very true.


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« Reply #42 on: December 05, 2018, 03:10:45 AM »

I cant get an aussie Xmas wreathe up here
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« Reply #43 on: December 05, 2018, 04:29:43 AM »

Acceptance... cuz I need it right now!  
You can have unconditional acceptance Harri. Even if there was unpaid postage I’d accept you (this time of year).
I cant get an aussie Xmas wreathe up here
My Dad was so mean he'd put a wreathe out each Christmas to commemorate the death of Santa Clause.

I'll hang hemispherical acceptance on the tree.
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« Reply #44 on: December 05, 2018, 05:21:36 AM »

I cant get an aussie Xmas wreathe up here

Board Parrot to the rescue:







My Dad was so mean he'd put a wreathe out each Christmas to commemorate the death of Santa Clause.

That's just wrong!
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« Reply #45 on: December 05, 2018, 12:39:18 PM »

Hi Yamada!  The always helpful Parrot.     Those are beautiful wreaths, thank you.

HappyC, I am hugging the stuffing out of you right now... .can you feel it?  Don't even try to run because we beagles stick together and are quite persistent when we put our minds to something. 

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« Reply #46 on: December 06, 2018, 02:02:32 AM »

For me, the ornaments I am hanging are Love, Peace & Silence through the night. Don’t worry Be Happy & Hopeful!
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« Reply #47 on: December 06, 2018, 05:50:04 AM »

Very nice!

Thanks Parrot for the help!   Nice job there Manifest32f.   Love, peace and silence are all sparkling with the inner strength they have. yamada, did you chose one of the wreaths Parrot brought to hang over the hearth? Everyone gets to help decorate here!

Harri and HC, the nice thing about acceptance and celebration is that those things are intricately a part of our PSI family. Sometimes we hang our ornaments in faith and belief and hope. Those are my ornaments for today, all in a shining cluster. 

 
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« Reply #48 on: December 08, 2018, 01:14:02 PM »

Today I load our tree up with optimism!
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« Reply #49 on: December 09, 2018, 08:04:35 AM »

Today I’m hanging community on the tree. This community has blessed me and so many others.
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« Reply #50 on: December 09, 2018, 03:06:20 PM »

Today I am putting up trust.  Growing trust in myself is helping to to have healthy trust in others.
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« Reply #51 on: December 10, 2018, 01:06:38 AM »

Today I hang parrot playfulness

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« Reply #52 on: December 10, 2018, 05:52:24 AM »

I have just got back from my final assessment appointment with my psychiatrist, and it could not have gone any better. I have my diagnosis!     

Because I am already so far along the recovery path, he has suggested CAT therapy, rather than trauma therapy to work on my fear of relationships and intimacy that occurred as a direct result of the trauma.

I am very happy with this result, and would like to hang my diagnosis for c-ptsd on the Christmas tree.     

Thank you bpdfamily for the part you have played in this. 
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« Reply #53 on: December 12, 2018, 03:15:04 AM »


Panda39
The ones at the bottom are complaining – Panda Moania ?

I’m going to hang forgiveness.  My Psyco/NPD bro, who’s supposed to be No Contact, tried harassing me for money all over the weekend. Didn’t work , but I’m still shaken (not stirred).
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« Reply #54 on: December 14, 2018, 12:29:19 AM »

I hang, ever so carefully, belonging.

HappyC, thanks for the laugh!  Panda- moania  hahaha
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Didn’t work , but I’m still shaken (not stirred).
Grrr... .but good for you getting through it fairly well.  No olive though?
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« Reply #55 on: December 14, 2018, 07:05:56 AM »

Time for a warm up of hot chocolate. 

Today I am hanging a word icicle: staying the course.

We can get discouraged about our progress, the two steps forward and more than that back according to the way we feel. However it is important that we 'stay the course' and keep going towards our continued healing and present joy.

 
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« Reply #56 on: December 14, 2018, 09:50:24 AM »

I would like to hang the ornament: knowledge

Because of this group and this website, I have so much more knowledge about BPD and how to deal with it, and boundaries and being able to live my own life, and that it is OKAY to be me!

BTW, I have to thank you all for your help these past few months. I couldn't have gotten through another holiday season without all of you!
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« Reply #57 on: December 14, 2018, 12:48:59 PM »

freespirit, congrats on the diagnosis... .but only because that means you will get the help you need!  I am very happy for you.   

Parrot, playfulness is a wonderful thing to hang on the tree.  Thank you.  I forget about that sometimes. 

Wools, our feelings really can sometimes be a poor guide in terms of judging progress and healing.  I am glad you are seeing through that and staying the course!

JNChell, we are blessed to have you as part of our group.
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« Reply #58 on: December 14, 2018, 09:06:02 PM »

cruiser23, celebrating with you! 

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I have to thank you all for your help these past few months. I couldn't have gotten through another holiday season without all of you!
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« Reply #59 on: December 16, 2018, 03:57:38 PM »

fun but instead of just the word fun I want a different word and a picture from one of my favorite Christmas movies:

Picture:  Lamp shaped like a Woman's leg in fishnet stockings

Word:  Fra- geel-ee

  
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