Tonight was a break-through, although it's also really scaring me.

[NoSocks]

I have just come from a meeting with my Aunt who I have been sharing my situation with. She is someone who's opinion I value and felt that her input would bring further clarity. I needed to hear her thoughts on me going to see the BPD specialist that's in another city. One of the main points I discussed was the substantial high fee's and even higher treatment fee's. Including the nauseating fact that there are no guaranties of success. In general, as of late I am trying to collect feed back about whether or not this is a reasonable option for my H and myself. I am trying to take everyone's advice, from family, friends, here on-line and from professionals. Also, I have come to the decision that if my H doesn't journey toward getting treatment then I have to know I can't live in the same place with him. After my lunch with my Aunt I have reached the decision to make an appointment for myself to see this person in another City who specializes in BPD/DBT. I feel her input on the decisions I make at this crucial time would lead my H and I to have a healthier outcome, verses not having her help and making uninformed choices that wouldn't be healthy for either of us. I think it's worth visiting her a few times. That I CAN afford. Just form the short half hour conversation I had with her I know she could help me. And if I'm the first one to meet with her, I think I would greatly benefit from what directions she gives to navigate what I'm in. She was trained under Dr. Linehan herself.

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[waverider]

Our local DBT centers have pre therapy before starting on the course. This is to ensure clients are at a stage where they have the commitment required to attend the course.

Especially when you consider the costs required flunking it after a couple of visits because they are not really ready is a big worry