What to say ... What to not say... What works ?

[In Pain]

I love you !

The worst 3 words to say to a borderline.

What works... .What doesn't work.

Please advise.

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[anxiety5]

I never had that problem. Maybe because her husband had left her and her divorce was getting finalized. But she never acted weird about saying that. The worst 3 words I could ever ask her were

"I need help"

or "Can you help?"

or "Can we talk?"