says he loves me and a second later says he hates me

[Joy88Change]

My husband and I have been married for 7 years and the last year has been hell for me and a emotional roller coaster. He is up and down says he loves me and a second later would say he hates me. I can't say how I feel because I dont want a arguement to start that lasts hours it's tiring and I'm at my wits end I'm trying to be strong for my kids I want us to be a family but the emotion I feel every day is when he talks to me and makes me feel like trash. There are moments also that he is so sweet and kind. I find peace when I'm at work I get a break from all of it but even then he calls and yells at me then will say he loves me. I just dont know what to do anymore.

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[itsmeSnap]

Hey there Joy88Change

Welcome to the boards.

Some details can help us give you more accurate advice, many members also mention feeling calm and somewhat relieved after they've written down their thoughts.

You're in good company here people understand what you're going through, we all have some personal experience (and hopefully some encouraging words) that we share with each other, so feel free to look around and talk to others in their threads, we're all going through it together.

So, how do these conversations happen exactly? What does he say?

[Radcliff]

Let me join itsmeSnap in welcoming you.  You are not alone.  Members here have experienced similar pain to what you are feeling.  This is a great community in which to get support and learn coping tools to help make things better.

As itsmeSnap says, more details will help us understand your situation better.  We're here to listen.  How many times per day does he call your work?  How long do the calls typically last?

RC