How are you doing with all that implied breakup talk? Has she been physically abusive to you? Are you concerned she might hurt your daughter? Does she behave like this in front of her mother?
Hello Cat!
How are you doing with all that implied breakup talk? For me it is very frustrating to listen, tbh I have started to think that it would be some sort of relief if she would go with the divorce.
Has she been physically abusive to you? She has been. When she starts to rage she gets physical with slaps and throwing things. Sometimes even worse, recently I had to remove knife from her hand when she made gesture to cut her wrist.
Are you concerned she might hurt your daughter? I am afraid when she flips, seems that she is uncontrollable at times.
Does she behave like this in front of her mother? Her mother is not safe either, she gets angry and physical with her too. Her mother blames uBPDw hormones and tiredness for this, but when it has been going on for years it is a bit hard to go along with such an explanation. She seems to be accepting it and hasn't really done anything because of it, it's always something else but not her daughter's fault. I suggested to MIL that maybe bpd would explain her daughters actions but she just watched me in disbelief.
Recently uBPDw has started suspect something, blames me that I'm "frozen" or stonelike, which results in even more her baiting. Her moods flip very fastly, and I start to see some pattern in her actions. It is hard to keep up with the MC because of DD, of course I want to show my emotions to her.
I already made contact with local CPS about the situation with DD, they were not very keen to put the high gear on yet, but said if police will be called they will act swift and appropriately. They recommended low level services, counselling and such which would be ideal. But because uBPDw doenst feel that there's anything wrong with her it is impossible to get any support there.
Never thought I would end up in this situation
Lion